I'm running a file server in my household that I've very pleased with using
Unraid. The software itself costs quite a bit compared to other NAS brands (Who, in fact seem to be free) although for some reason I just prefer it.
I myself am only running an 18TB server (I'll buy more HDDs as I need more space, prices are always going down!) and 8GB ram has been far too much at this point, I only use ~ 500MB on real memory, the other 7.5GB is just used for caching random pieces of data.
One thing I will recommend is
get IPMI, it's amazing, makes running headless so easy, however, for the real specifications I can't help you as this is the storage subforum and that's all I really know.