If you think SLI increases VRAM , no it doesnt. The primary GPU and Second GPU share the primary GPUs memory.
I dont think you'd ever feel on BF4 that you need more VRAM. Todays game on their highest take no more than 1.8 GB on 1080p. So you would not need an upgrade for this year's and next years games , but surely some really badass games would surely force you to drop settings down. This , is the reason I always lure toward AMD for the mainstream range. I'd say do this -
1. Sell GTX 770 and wait for the aftermarket cooler versions of R9-290 to come and pick one.
2. Sell GTX 770 and pick R9-280X if you cant wait.
3. Sell GTX 770 and buy newer 4GB model.
4. Drop settings where the VRAM is causing lag. ( drop AA , texture , shadows , lod , etc )