cannot find a perfect build

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CPU: Intel Core i5-4670K 3.4GHz Quad-Core Processor ($239.99 @ Newegg)
CPU Cooler: Cooler Master Hyper 212 EVO 82.9 CFM Sleeve Bearing CPU Cooler ($29.98 @ OutletPC)
Motherboard: MSI Z87-G45 Gaming ATX LGA1150 Motherboard ($140.98 @ Newegg)
Memory: G.Skill Ripjaws X Series 8GB (2 x 4GB) DDR3-2133 Memory ($57.99 @ Newegg)
Storage: Samsung 840 EVO 120GB 2.5" Solid State Disk ($98.99 @ Mac Mall)
Storage: Western Digital Caviar Blue 1TB 3.5" 7200RPM Internal Hard Drive ($59.98 @ OutletPC)
Video Card: MSI Radeon R9 280X 3GB Video Card ($309.99 @ B&H)
Case: Corsair Carbide Series 300R Windowed ATX Mid Tower Case ($69.99 @ NCIX US)
Power Supply: Corsair Gaming 700W 80+ Bronze Certified ATX Power Supply ($87.37 @ TigerDirect)
Optical Drive: Samsung SH-224DB/BEBE DVD/CD Writer ($14.99 @ Newegg)
Operating System: Microsoft Windows 8.1 - OEM (64-bit) ($89.98 @ OutletPC)
Monitor: Asus VS239H-P 23.0" Monitor ($168.99 @ NCIX US)
Keyboard: Logitech G105 Wired Gaming Keyboard ($47.99 @ B&H)
Mouse: Logitech G500s Laser Gaming Mouse Wired Laser Mouse ($49.99 @ Newegg)
Speakers: Logitech Z553 40W 2.1ch Speakers ($57.49 @ B&H)
Total: $1499.69
(Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available.)
(Generated by PCPartPicker 2013-12-10 17:52 EST-0500)

None IPS monitor, generic gaming keyboard, optical mouse.
PCPartPicker part list / Price breakdown by merchant / Benchmarks

CPU: Intel Core i5-4670K 3.4GHz Quad-Core Processor ($224.98 @ OutletPC)
CPU Cooler: Cooler Master Hyper 212 EVO 82.9 CFM Sleeve Bearing CPU Cooler ($29.98 @ OutletPC)
Motherboard: MSI Z87-G43 Gaming ATX LGA1150 Motherboard ($124.99 @ NCIX US)
Memory: G.Skill Ripjaws X Series 8GB (2 x 4GB) DDR3-2133 Memory ($57.99 @ Newegg)
Storage: Samsung 840 EVO 120GB 2.5" Solid State Disk ($98.99 @ Mac Mall)
Storage: Western Digital Caviar Blue 1TB 3.5" 7200RPM Internal Hard Drive ($59.98 @ OutletPC)
Video Card: MSI Radeon R9 280X 3GB Video Card ($309.99 @ B&H)
Case: Corsair 300R ATX Mid Tower Case ($59.99 @ Newegg)
Power Supply: Corsair Gaming 700W 80+ Bronze Certified ATX Power Supply ($87.37 @ TigerDirect)
Optical Drive: Samsung SH-224DB/BEBE DVD/CD Writer ($14.99 @ Newegg)
Operating System: Microsoft Windows 8.1 - OEM (64-bit) ($89.98 @ OutletPC)
Monitor: Acer G236HLBbd 60Hz 23.0" Monitor ($109.99 @ Amazon)
Keyboard: A4Tech G800V Wired Gaming Keyboard ($24.99 @ Newegg)
Mouse: Logitech G400s Wired Optical Mouse ($39.99 @ Amazon)
Speakers: Logitech Z553 40W 2.1ch Speakers ($57.49 @ B&H)
Total: $1391.69
(Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available.)
(Generated by PCPartPicker 2013-12-10 17:59 EST-0500)

[PCPartPicker part list](http://pcpartpicker.com/p/2ikvK) / [Price breakdown by merchant](http://pcpartpicker.com/p/2ikvK/by_merchant/) / [Benchmarks](http://pcpartpicker.com/p/2ikvK/benchmarks/)

Type|Item|Price
:----|:----|:----
**CPU** | [AMD FX-8320 3.5GHz 8-Core Processor](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/amd-cpu-fd8320frhkbox) | $149.99 @ Amazon
**CPU Cooler** | [Corsair H60 54.0 CFM Liquid CPU Cooler](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/corsair-cpu-cooler-h60cw9060007ww) | $59.99 @ Amazon
**Motherboard** | [Asus M5A97 R2.0 ATX AM3+ Motherboard](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/asus-motherboard-m5a97r20) | $92.99 @ NCIX US
**Memory** | [G.Skill Ares Series 8GB (2 x 4GB) DDR3-1600 Memory](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/gskill-memory-f31600c9d8gao) | $52.99 @ Newegg
**Storage** | [Crucial M500 240GB 2.5" Solid State Disk](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/crucial-internal-hard-drive-ct240m500ssd1) | $139.99 @ Amazon
**Storage** | [Western Digital Caviar Blue 1TB 3.5" 7200RPM Internal Hard Drive](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/western-digital-internal-hard-drive-wd10ezex) | $59.98 @ OutletPC
**Video Card** | [XFX Radeon R9 280X 3GB Video Card](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/xfx-video-card-r9280xtdfd) | $309.99 @ Newegg
**Case** | [Corsair 200R ATX Mid Tower Case](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/corsair-case-200r) | $39.99 @ NCIX US
**Power Supply** | [Corsair Builder 600W 80+ Bronze Certified ATX Power Supply](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/corsair-power-supply-cx600) | $54.99 @ Microcenter
**Optical Drive** | [Samsung SH-224DB/BEBE DVD/CD Writer](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/samsung-optical-drive-sh224dbbebe) | $14.99 @ Newegg
**Operating System** | [Microsoft Windows 8.1 - OEM (64-bit)](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/microsoft-os-wn700615) | $89.98 @ OutletPC
**Monitor** | [AOC E2425SWD 60Hz 24.0" Monitor](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/aoc-monitor-e2425swd) | $119.99 @ Newegg
**Keyboard** | [AZIO Levetron Mech5 Wired Gaming Keyboard](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/azio-keyboard-kb577u) | $59.99 @ Newegg
**Mouse** | [Razer DeathAdder Wired Laser Mouse](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/razer-mouse-rz0100151700w1m1) | $49.99 @ NCIX US
**Headphones** | [Corsair Vengeance 1400 Headset](http://pcpartpicker.com/part/corsair-headphones-ca9011123na) | $79.99 @ Microcenter
| | **Total**
| Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available. | $1375.83
| Generated by PCPartPicker 2013-12-10 17:45 EST-0500

OD is because you can burn blue ray, ssd is optional

PCPartPicker part list / Price breakdown by merchant / Benchmarks

CPU: Intel Core i5-4670K 3.4GHz Quad-Core Processor ($224.98 @ OutletPC)
CPU Cooler: Cooler Master Hyper 212 EVO 82.9 CFM Sleeve Bearing CPU Cooler ($29.98 @ OutletPC)
Motherboard: Asus Z87-A ATX LGA1150 Motherboard ($119.99 @ Newegg)
Memory: G.Skill Sniper 8GB (2 x 4GB) DDR3-1600 Memory ($52.99 @ Newegg)
Storage: Samsung 840 EVO 120GB 2.5" Solid State Disk ($98.99 @ Mac Mall)
Storage: Western Digital Caviar Blue 1TB 3.5" 7200RPM Internal Hard Drive ($59.98 @ OutletPC)
Video Card: Asus GeForce GTX 780 3GB Video Card ($519.99 @ Newegg)
Case: NZXT Source 210 Elite (Black) ATX Mid Tower Case ($46.16 @ Mwave)
Power Supply: XFX 650W 80+ Bronze Certified ATX Power Supply ($69.99 @ NCIX US)
Optical Drive: Asus DRW-24B1ST/BLK/B/AS DVD/CD Writer ($16.99 @ Newegg)
Operating System: Microsoft Windows 7 Home Premium SP1 (OEM) (64-bit) ($82.98 @ OutletPC)
Monitor: Asus VH238H 23.0" Monitor ($139.99 @ NCIX US)
Keyboard: Logitech MK520 Wireless Ergonomic Keyboard w/Laser Mouse ($42.99 @ B&H)
Total: $1506.00
(Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available.)
(Generated by PCPartPicker 2013-12-10 18:15 EST-0500)

Radeon R9 280X is a great option. If you can find one...

PCPartPicker part list / Price breakdown by merchant / Benchmarks

CPU: Intel Core i5-4670K 3.4GHz Quad-Core Processor ($224.98 @ OutletPC)
CPU Cooler: Cooler Master Hyper 212 EVO 82.9 CFM Sleeve Bearing CPU Cooler ($29.98 @ OutletPC)
Motherboard: Asus Z87-A ATX LGA1150 Motherboard ($119.99 @ Newegg)
Memory: G.Skill Ares Series 8GB (2 x 4GB) DDR3-1600 Memory ($52.99 @ Newegg)
Storage: Crucial M500 120GB 2.5" Solid State Disk ($85.99 @ Amazon)
Storage: Western Digital Caviar Blue 1TB 3.5" 7200RPM Internal Hard Drive ($59.98 @ OutletPC)
Video Card: XFX Radeon R9 290 4GB Video Card ($455.98 @ SuperBiiz)
Case: Corsair 200R ATX Mid Tower Case ($39.99 @ NCIX US)
Power Supply: Corsair Gaming 700W 80+ Bronze Certified ATX Power Supply ($87.37 @ TigerDirect)
Optical Drive: Samsung SH-224DB/BEBE DVD/CD Writer ($14.99 @ Newegg)
Operating System: Microsoft Windows 8.1 - OEM (64-bit) ($89.98 @ OutletPC)
Monitor: Acer G236HLBbd 60Hz 23.0" Monitor ($109.99 @ Amazon)
Keyboard: A4Tech G800V Wired Gaming Keyboard ($24.99 @ Newegg)
Mouse: Logitech G400s Wired Optical Mouse ($39.99 @ Amazon)
Speakers: Logitech Z553 40W 2.1ch Speakers ($57.49 @ B&H)
Total: $1494.68
(Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available.)
(Generated by PCPartPicker 2013-12-10 18:23 EST-0500)

Show us one of your builds that was torn apart by the forums and may be we can see why.
And see if there is a way to improve it.

Graphics bit over the top because of price or performance?

Looks pretty good, however that video card might be a tight fight into that case.
Card length is 10.24" (260mm), maximum gpu length for that Antec case is 10.5" (266mm).
The Corsair 200R can support video card length of up to 11" (300mm) and without drive cage up to 15" (400mm).
Also change Win8 to 8.1 and you're set.

PCPartPicker part list / Price breakdown by merchant / Benchmarks

Case: Corsair 200R ATX Mid Tower Case ($39.99 @ NCIX US)
Operating System: Microsoft Windows 8.1 - OEM (64-bit) ($89.98 @ OutletPC)
Total: $129.97
(Prices include shipping, taxes, and discounts when available.)
(Generated by PCPartPicker 2013-12-10 22:17 EST-0500)