Hi there,
A wider middle screen would be ideal from a viewing point of view, however the problems arise in pushing a picture to different screen sizes. (And pushing to different resolutions is just a no-go). A large middle screen would work fine if you're running them separately, windows extended desktop, however if you're attempting to game like that you'll either face letterboxing/pillarboxing or image stretching.
That's why it's easier with matching monitors.
You're correct in saying that you will only see 60fps in a 60hz monitor however, there is a lot of debate on the visually noticeable difference between higher frames per second. So it when choosing a monitor, make sure you choose a decent colour ratio and quality, quick refresh rate and such before settling on hz rating.
Finally, the 3gb VRam models will be sufficient, Vram serves as a "buffer" for intensive scenes ie. lots of rendering, action and plenty going on on scene. That being said, the GTX 780's are good cards, so if your budget is a little tight you could downscale them slightly.
Hope this helps,
Regards