VRAM has become a marketing issue.
My understanding is that vram is more of a performance issue than a functional issue.
A game needs to have most of the data in vram that it uses most of the time.
Somewhat like real ram.
If a game needs something not in vram, it needs to get it across the pcie boundary
hopefully from real ram and hopefully not from a hard drive.
It is not informative to know to what level the available vram is filled.
Possibly much of what is there is not needed.
What is not known is the rate of vram exchange.
Vram is managed by the Graphics card driver, so there may be differences in effectiveness between amd and nvidia cards.
Here is an older performance test comparing 2gb with 4gb vram.
http://www.pugetsystems.com/labs/articles/Video-Card-Performance-2GB-vs-4GB-Memory-154/
Spoiler... not a significant difference.
I think a 1440P monitor is a great idea.
Buy one and keep your current monitor as a side monitor for email and performance monitors.
Such static use will not impact your gaming.
Yes, the added pixels that your GTX770 needs to manage will have an impact on fps.
You can reduce the impact by lowering the aa which is less needed for higher resolution monitors.
If all else fails, you can run some games in a lower resolution.
I would avoid sli in favor of a single stronger card.