Our home routers are the dumb version of ISP's industrial routers. Ours only have 2 ports, the WAN and the LAN sides, and its only job is to pass information between the 2 ports. It doesn't see what's beyond the nearest router, most likely the ISP junction down the street and that's it.
Between you and the server you are contacting, go through at least 2 ISP "clouds" with perhaps dozens of ISP routers which you have no control over. The ISP routers have more intelligence and are able to "talk" amongst themselves to pick the most efficient route within their own cloud.