How can I convince my parents to let me build a pc?

TheMasterSmurf

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So anyways, I asked my dad a couple weeks back if I could build a PC? He didn't allow me to sadly enough. My PC is $650. Now I know what your thinking, "is that the price of just the PC? KID YOU GOTTA INCLUDE THE MONITOR AND BLAH BLAH BLAH." Well, $650 is the price of the computer with all its components, monitor, keyboard, and operating system. I'm 13. I'm a straight A student and I've always done what my parents have desired. That being said, I'm able to pay half of the price of the PC as I have about $375 saved up and am willing to do hard labor in order to get this PC. However, I'm pretty sure I'm unable to build one due to my father's reluctance of me handling the parts and the fact that I have both a PS4 and Xbox One. However, before you call me a spoiled brat, I actually really do need this for schoolwork. My laptop simply isn't up to snuff with most of the applications I run in order to do my schoolwork. My father would much prefer if I would buy one instead of building one, but pre builts imo are absolute crap for the price to value ratio. About a year ago, I asked my dad if I was able to build a PC and he responded with yes. My family are upper mid class people. we're not cheap and were extremely generous. Anyways, I'd like to just thank you to whoever's reading this and for their help.
 
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COLGeek

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Sounds like you need to have an unemotional, mature discussion with your parents about all of this. While you may find a sympathetic ear here, that is about all we can do for you. Of course, you could also earn/save the $$$ and wait a bit longer and do yourself. That would go a long way in showing your parents how responsible you are.

Good luck.
 


OK; I'm not sure if this will help you but I'm going to write something you might want to show your parents. Up to you.

First of all, let me tell you a little bit about myself. I am 38 and I work as an IT Consultant, its easily the best job I've ever had, and I've worked in a number of fields. I didn't go to college for IT, I went to college for Pre-Law, then I ended up falling in love with an engineering student, and since she had a couple more years of school to go for, and I didn't want to break up with her, I ended up working in Finance, so we could live together.

-well life happened, and we broke up, I hated finance, but since i didn't have a specific degree I ended up floating along working assorted sales related jobs hating every minute of it~

So what do this have to do with IT? Well I'll tell you. When i was growing up in the late 80's my father was forward thinking a bit. You see he felt the future was computers, and people who knew how to use them would have a lot of advantages. So he bought a brand new apple II in 1986, and did everything he could to encourage me and my brother to use it. Then in 1990 he purchased an IBM 486 pc, because all "work" pcs were IBMs and he wanted us to work on something we'd use in a work environment. He sent us to a couple of computer camps during the summers. He got us into typing classes as well. Well I have to admit, i didn't have a huge interest in computers, but i was familiar with them, what i was more interested in was gaming

So 1993 rolled around, I was 15, and a great game came out on PC called "betrayal at krondor". Well my junker home pc couldn't run it, but i was very eager to play it. So I tried to talk my father into buying a new pc. I told him all sorts of things, most of which i'm sure was BS to convince him to get a new one. He refused to bend because I'm sure he knew I was going to use it to play a game. In the end however, he decided to "capture" my enthusiasm to encourage me to learn more, and make it a life lesson. What he did was he "Rented" his lawnmower to me, as well as his car (he had to drive). and told me to work for it cutting lawns. So I made it a summer job, cutting lawns, paying him for the use of the lawnmower and car, In the end i made a little bit under 1k after 6 weeks of work. He told me he would match my funds under one condition. If i built the whole computer myself.

Now understand, back then there was no youtube, nor were there any online guides for building your own pc. I had to research how to do it at the library and in magazines. It took me almost 3 weeks of research before I was both familiar with HOW to build a pc, AND familiar with the current PC tech so that I could purchase the right "matching" parts.

So summer came to an end, and I had a brand new, top of the line intel Pentium pc; my father worked with me side by side as we built the new pc. He learned from me (as I had researched a lot of things he did not know), and since he worked in tech (He built lasers) he taught me a lot as well about working with circuit boards and safely handling electronics. It was an invaluable experience, and one which would stay with me my whole life. When i was in college, though I can't say my interest in pcs went beyond computer games, I saved up from a part time job and build a PC, which I then overclocked and became the cool nerd on campus with the only "ghz" clocked pc.

It stayed a hobby of mine, which would lead me to joining up with an online gaming group which would then lead me to an online game development group, for whom I would work as a hoby in the mid 2000's learning graphic design, then computer programing in C++ and Javascript. All built around my interest in games. By this point my interest in computers had turned into a passion well beyond "games" and so I left the awful sales jobs behind and joined the IT workforce, with nothing more then a passion for pcs, and some amateur knowledge about programming and pc building.

Now it's my career, and it's a good paying one.

The point of this story, which I hope your parents read, is that I don't think there is anything wrong about fostering and encouraging a passion for technology, because in the end, This is where the future is heading, and you never know how this type of knowledge and experience might help out in the future. If financially you're not in the position to help your kids out, that's ok too. when I was 13 I cut lawns and shoveled snow as well for $$, its not like my family was well off either. And working as a kid to get what you want is a great lesson in and of itself i think.
 
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micro center used to have build days where people could bring in there pc parts and for a small fee in the training rooms they used to help people put there pc together. also see if there any local pc clubs and or shops that build pc.
also sit down and show your dad some of the pc build videos on the net. it not to hard to build a pc if you take your time.
 
Start with the parts that are least likely to break and have the longest warranties. That would be the case, power supply, SSD, HDD, CPU cooler, DVD/BD-ROM, Operating System. Then try to get the motherboard, CPU and RAM at the same time. Next video card. With some luck you can get a nice keyboard, mouse and monitor for bdays and xmas. You may also have some luck bargaining with grades.

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Considering you are a minor you should get your parents permission before you do anything
 

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I don't know if I would advise going behind your parents back if your parents specifically said DO NOT build a computer. I don't know what your parents are like but if they are the type of people that look to take care of something on there own before paying someone to do it they should should come around. If your parents are the type of people that are willing to get involved in said project. Why don't you suggest you both do this project together.

However the extras will add up and adding a 100+ $$ version of windows will start to make it more expensive. If you don't have spare parts you can steal from an old computer that is not in use you parents may not like looking at all the bills adding up. Realistically I don't think even $700 is going to cut it for what you want. I assume you want a GTX 950 or better so $160 atleast for the GPU and $100 for a windows operating system is about 1/3 your budget. If he is on board and you really want the stuff enough to wait for your birthday, etc. Its possible.

Maybe start by just showing your parents things you learned about building a computer. And be patient. Thats very hard for kids your age, if enough time goes by with you just talking about the things you learned they will most likely soften up to the whole idea and jump on board. I play counter strike and here some of the craziest things from kids your age who took there computer apart and wiped off all the thermal paste because they didn't know what it was. Learn about the parts and how to put them together well. It'll probably help both causes of you convincing your parents and letting you learn more about your machine.




Yes I wouldn't try to sell them that you need a GTX 980 for school work. That probably will steer them in the wrong direction.
 
I've edited my post. Skippy is correct, you shouldn't go behind your parents back. But perhaps you should prepare an argument as to why you would like to have a desktop. Computers are a gateway for creating all kinds of things. Modding games can teach you programming and promote artistic skills. Some parents may be wary of their kids putting themselves online, so I would prolly stay away from twitch and youtube.