80C for package temps. If it spikes above 80, its fine, you want to look at averages. You dont want the chip to run at high temps for extended periods of time. Anything below 90C is considered "safe". So I am a bit conservative when I go with 80.
Yes, for a simple OC of 4.6, all you will have to change is the frequency and the v-core. All the motherboard bios are different, I suggest you google the name of your motherboard and OC and watch some videos. Jayztwocents has some very good videos that have good content. This is one on how to overclock, it will teach you enough to get to 4.6.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qcta3RStYSM
Yes, want to run XMP (extreme memory profile). XMP is just a one button click OC of your memory. It is literally one button and your memory will be OCed. But dont expect much, as Intel CPUs run great at base memory frequency.
The uncore is for the cache ratio. You dont need to OC the cache ratio for a 4.6 OC. Just leave everything else alone except for the frequency multipler, v-core, and XMP. Dont worry about crashes or messing up. Even if your chip gets to hot, it will shut itself down to prevent damage. They make them pretty hard to screw up. If you crash, restart. If windows does not load, go to bios and restore to default settings (removes all changes). If it gets in a loop and you cant get into the bios, clear the CMOS. Pending on your mobo, there may be a button to clear CMOS. If no button you will have to clear the jumper or remove the battery on your motherboard for a couple of minutes.
If it does not crash at 4.6, you can undervolt the chip (v-core), but I would just leave the voltage at stock settings.