hmmm. no way to bypass, other than to trick around a little.
First thing I'd do, is set the voltage for the DIMMS at it's recommended setting for the 3600mhz, which in this case is 1.35v.
Then i'd set the timings manually to 16-16-16-36, which is default. Rather than try let it boot to windows, I would create a bootable USB, with memtest86+ and set it to boot first from the boot menu, or through the bios. Run it, and test the ram, at it's default speed. If makes a few passes without error, then you know the dimms are working fine. Go back to the bios, and set the boot order back to the HD/SSD, and see if it boots to windows. If it crashes go back to the bios, and loosen the timings by one notch less so that the timings may read : 18-18-18- 39 or whatever options are available and try again.
I think you get my drift? The idea is to loosen the timings, keeping the rated voltage as it should be, and hopefully you will get a sweetspot were you hit the rated speed.
The alternative of course is to set it to a lower XMP, or manual timings settings for a lower speed. The difference between lets say 2933mhz ram and 3600mhz ram, specially on Intel systems, is negligible apart form benchmark scores. it makes nearly zero difference in gaming scenarios. It's different for AMD Ryzen systems, as the increase in ram speed actually has a pronounced effect going from 2400, to 3200 speeds, but after that the effect tapers off.