i dunno me tinks if u didnt tipe like tis i would respect u alotmore and want 2 help u more.
Other than your horrid typing, try using Google. It's not that easy to explain, as using mods are different from game to game. For most mods, it requires you to either extract the files into a certain folder (Oblivion is a good example) or you just run a provided installer and it does the work for you (NaturalMod for Crysis). What games in particular are you trying to download a mod for?
Yes, you have to have the game title.
On a side note, do not bother posting that you're 34. Unless you were drunk while typing this, I find it hard to believe this is how a 34 year old types.