I think your problem is not the amount of RAM, but the amount of memory sticks you are using. I read somewhere that the VIA KT333 chipset only supports PC2700 memory if you use one or two memory sticks. If you use 3, it recognizes the memory as PC2100. So if you are using 3 sticks, try setting your memory as PC2100, and it'll probably work.
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