Does an age difference affect a relationship?

I'd like to say age doesn't matter, but the sad truth is that it does.

If I had to put a limit, I'd say anything between 10 years is cool, of course there are few exceptions. This is me talking from a society point of view

Love is love though, so you're the one that needs to decide (deep, corny moment)
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Have a talk with Melb and PooBaa. I think, but not sure, that Melb is 18 and PooBaa is 29. Don't quote me, but I do know there is an age difference, cause I teased them about it a few months back.

For the record, I have no problem with age differences. I just like to crack jokes.

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There is a big difference between men and women. What I mean is who is older the man or the woman? The older you get the more the acceptable gap grows. Most women dont like younger men. Maybe they'll date a younger man within a year or two when they are in thier 20's but usually that's not going to happen. As you get older it doesn't matter as much. Like a 35 year old woman dating a 30 year old man. But a woman in her mid 20's will rarely date down. Thier mindset just not on par with a 19-20 year old. Hell they cant even take you out to a bar/club/whatever with them. I do know that in some other countries and Jerry Springer contestants this is quite normal.
I'm a 29 year old guy and my absolute cut off is 24 and that if she's kind of got something going for herself. But I also wont date a chick over 31. When I was 19-21 I met some older women. Typically they were after 1 thing, but there isn't anything wrong with that! Honestly I dont connect too well with chicks that are older than me. Plus most of them have kid(s) by then.

About a year and a half ago I went back to school. This is after being married for 4 years. Anyway I starrted talking to this gal who was only 19, she looked great and was alot of fun to hang around with. Where things started to sour was when we were going out, the things I'm interested in at age 27 and the things she is are completely different. I'm not interested in hanging out in the below 21 hotspot or going to see the Nelly concert. I dont care what J-Lo was wearing (unless it's nothing at all) or who she's dating. Plus I'm thinking of settling down and starting a family (You may or may not be) she's just getting life started. Now rather she would be willing to sacrifice her 20's to settle down doesn't matter. In the end they'll have some form of regret for not being able to live thier 20's. The real killer was one day I let her invite a couple of friends over. I got frustrated to say the least and things went downhill from there. (I'll spare you the details)

Well anyway, try it out and see how things go. I know that men dating younger women tend to work a bit better than woman dating younger men. There is one advantage of dating a younger gal, they are not as jaded as a woman in her mid-late 20's. So all of your lame tricks will tend to work.

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Here's my take... If you find somebody to love in this world, hold on as long as you can. If its working then don't let self doubt and questions like this screw it up.

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I'm 26, and dating somebody that young would not work for me. I doubt I could handle anyone under 22. There is a huge maturity difference even in the most mature 18 year olds.

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erm, let's see, I'm 16 and dating my 2 year old quadro dcc. There lol.

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My 2 cents from recent experience.

I don't think an age difference is a big deal normally, but my experience with 18 years olds lately reinforces that they just aren't adults. Generally at least.

I met my wife when she was 18, but I was 20 so we did fine. Since we met in Europe things were a bit different than meeting a 18 year old girl in the states. My wife had graduated high school when she was 16, had a job, and was in the same class as me at the university. We had a lot in common and no cultural or legal restrictions either.

If we're talking Europeans it's better, and doable, if we're talking Americans it's worse, and a challenge. In the USA I think it's pretty difficult to date anyone under 21 when you've crossed that threshold. Not only are you restricted in what you can do, but odds are they don't have the adult responsibilities or goals that you have. What are you going to do when you can't even take your girl to a club dancing? Are you going to go to a 18 year old club? Do you know or remember how ghetto they are? I did all my good dating in Europe and didn't have to deal with stupid age limits. You live in Jersey and do. What are you going to do when you go to buy a bottle of wine and you have to leave your girlfriend in the car so that they don't refuse the sale to you? What are you going to do when all your friends want to go to Vegas (or Atlantic City) and you can't go 'cause your girlfriend doesn't want you going without her? What about the Bachelor parties that are probably a regular part of your life at this point? What about bar hopping, wine tasting, new years parties at clubs, Marti gras, ski trips etc etc. She can't do any of it without being restricted. That pretty much is going to kill at least half of your social life.

That's not even taking into account the difference in goals. Odds are you have a 401K, some retirement, and are thinking about starting a family in the next couple of years. For all I know, this girl is still in high school and lives with her parents. Living in the dorms isn't much better.

The older you get, the less the age difference matters. Nonetheless, it's going to depend on the two people. I have very very little in common with 18 year olds. Some of my friends that are in their early 20's are dating 18-19 year olds and one of the first things you'll notice is that every other woman around them (your friend's girlfriends) will possibly hate them. They'll get annoyed pretty quick. Call it jealousy or call it annoyance, it doesn't matter. It of course depends on the girl, but your friend's 24-28 year old girlfriends and wives are going to probably go nuts. You'll have to filter that out.

That wouldn't stop me from dating the girl though. She might be real flexible and be a lot of fun while it lasts. She'll probably make you feel pretty young again. My wife and I moved back to the states when she was still 20 and we survived it until she turned 21. It was a bitch, but we did it. Waiting 3 years to go to a decent dance club though would have been torture.

Don’t pass it up because of the age difference. You only live once. Just be prepared for some pitfalls. Make sure from the beginning that you can go out with your friends without her throwing a fit. Try not to give up your adult social life due to the girl. Find stuff you have in common real quick besides sex if you want it to last or you’ll find yourself irritated and bored out of your skull when the initial infatuation wears off. I doubt you want to discuss Eminem and her best friends high school prom date.

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Wow there are a lot of good points here. Thanks for all of your input guys and girls. I talked to her last night for quite some time and she is funny as can be!! So far so good. Thanks again!!

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What's the general age of consent overseas?

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