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July 6, 2011 7:42:36 AM

I have problems, I admit it. I am not a typical male. I am not gay, but testosterone has failed me. Ever seen a small tree before? Think of that but being ripped out and shredded by the local city guys. That is what I fell.

I want to be accepted by the male community, but biology seems to contradict itself. The idea a male needs other males seems to be flawed. I cannot gain the companionship of my peers. They seem to acknowledge me, but I cannot get across the fact that they can. A group of guys have invited me over for football. I have never played football in all my life, do not know how to throw a football, nor any plays on the field. I feel like a pathetic worthless guy who has not demeanor: but I do like this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Y0Q2RWNLdc&feature=rela...

Anyways.

The lack of a good father-figure also has brought me into discomfort. I have never in my years had a good father. No one to call son, or to be a father to me. I guess this contributes to my discomfort, but I cannot blame what has happened on what I do or feel.

Being accepted and being a better male is what I pray for. All I want to do is be someone, not no one. Going to play with the guys will bring problems. I would take time form them playing. Instead, they will show me how to play; redundant.

Why do I even bother pursuing a community I cannot even relate to. Go to the ladies? Hell no. I need to be a guy.

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July 6, 2011 4:51:45 PM

You should seek a therapist to discuss your issues with.

A doctor can help you with low testosterone. They make drugs for that.

Maybe you are gay, you just don't accept it yet. I mean that will all due respect. If your more comfortable hanging out with girls, and they accept you, do it.

Don't try to be someone your not, you will fail. Be who you are and be proud of it.

A computer hardware forum is not the place to divulge your problems in life.
July 7, 2011 3:22:20 PM

I cant grow a beard if that helps.

Once you get a few years out of highschool your views on life will change.
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July 8, 2011 2:38:54 AM

Give it time
Look forwards, not stopping and worrying, tho we all do at times.
Free yourself up from all this and go out and have fun
Its the fun of the game thats important to those guys, and if you bring this attitude as well, you may share in it with them
You need to relax and have fun, you just may like it
July 12, 2011 8:22:45 PM

Don't worry about not being man enough. Other guys are just as insecure as you are. For example me. I am short (not even 170cm) but in many aspect I surpass guys which is physically larger, example include ability to handle situations, mental ability and social interaction etc. There was once I need to hammer some poles to the ground and another larger guy is doing the same thing next to me but he doesn't really knows physics and instead make a small swing arc with elbow trying to hammer it in. I on the other hand use the shoulder and create a much bigger arc and hammer the pole in using half the time. The girls are watching me a tiny guy beating him. So just play to your strength and you can reach alpha male status by means other than brute strength.
July 21, 2011 12:26:53 AM

just remember to be yourself. I've seen people persecuted most of their early life because of their bodies. Then when they get fit and healthy, some of them change and become very assey the very type of people that strove them to change.

just remember to hold on to the good in u.
July 28, 2011 2:51:51 AM

Therapy could be placed within many parts of interest, for what it can or cannot be to say of help is perspective.

They say the best therapy is your own, but of your issue would be in lack of to do, so going to therapy would have to be placed even when told to do on your own.

Of all things about males to say, is always testosterone, or whatever. It helps you in many things of course. Probably helps you grow, helps swim, helps you climb, helps you walk. But it still helps to fall from it all.

Holding onto what is good is key, but remember what parts of things that are not good that you dont work with the most will cost you. Even on ideas of not costing anyone else. But dont see all of it as the same.

If you need air to blow up a ballon, not matter where or how you use air, you need it to say to still blow up the ballon. You can probably use other things then air for the ballon, dont get me wrong, just of it, air seems more useful at times for some reason. And of this is many ways to use something other then air.

So on thoughts of what is probably better placed even within something said, im in lack, and sorry for such, which i've stated time and time again.

But keeping to common place for common place seems better, but to say all things are common isnt very common.

Which is crappy of course, given the issue sometimes, but working with something common over nothing at all that isnt is probably better servered or placed with use.

So of the good, remember to work with the bad for you and you only, and no one else and even something more then none. Lose good in bad alot of times. All your good might go bad and left with what was good- bad, or just bad. But working with what might be good in bad is very hard sometimes, but can be very commmonly placed for what it might be though too but given it is with alot of bad, so any use is no good almost. But dont think of it that way though. Would make it worse to say without just saying it something not able to just be used really.

Point A to Point B can have many more points then the points in question or too take from when going to one. Which is all there should be at times, but Point A to point B isnt so pointless in the middle sometimes.

See, lost a place of probably decent use of any one part of useful use of words for what they really should be, so dont lack the point for one, maybe better put for anyone place? Yes?

But "men" to say lose much of what you talk about daily, a man will know this. Usually to say, or as said or put anyways. Rather right or not, i dont know, but doesnt seem right though. Daily is alot. But to say otherwise would be to say different, yes? Or at times at least within what could be said?

I dont know though, why i got alot to say sometimes i think, right?

Still, some food for thought, which might be too much. Brain does more then just think you know.
July 28, 2011 3:10:55 AM

wanamingo said:
I cant grow a beard if that helps.

Once you get a few years out of highschool your views on life will change.


I think this is subjective and commoningly misplaced based on the interest but is used for and against on a point of pointless many times over again, hence the issue of (presence) to say of interest with or without issue(s).

So of it very probably taken for granted when not suppose and not taken for granted when suppose to be. Probably a place in which "Middle" Age is questionable. Due to meantime of the difference in which anything is or said from what was said and was, and will be at times.

Cause at times for things taken place of say against what is known later and what was said then are not equal for that of something different. But specific if almost left to just that of the reader alone. For on many things would be right to that of or not of. But still maybe placed within realms of questionable parts of interest. Of this time for place of interest would be of itself for itself while at least of it there is only that of time to say anything of interest would take place of or on.

So in time for itself to say that it is later is known, is probably not said of the interest. So then is left what it was for nothing more but of known interest later. Also saying that later is nothing more or/and lesser then then.

So, who knows...life is weird, that is for sure. I've been told many thing but why is hardly any guess many times over sometimes, but sometimes not. And as for anyone else is anyones else guess to say.

I've had hair for a long time and many times over, and grew-up quick myself, but stopped growing for awhile, and continued to grow alot of hair. Not so much now or actually here of late, Ive been out of school for awhile actually, just being graduating college or something by now honestly, but oh well i guess.

But hiar is hair, and it only means so much really and doesnt mean something at all once and awhile, if not more then that as well.

So to say much of anything is that of something is anyones guess. But of that though is probably a part of something nice to have or have not of on the idea with hair especially, right?

But i would say you wouldnt have hair(beard) from what you have said, in terms of beard, sorry, lack of mention in the post.
August 9, 2011 5:47:06 AM

Any male who lives in a region with seasons who isn't able to spend at least a few hours on the sun (like during the winter) should be taking vitamin D pills...vitamin D is what gets your testosterone going.

I'm not kidding.
August 9, 2011 5:33:26 PM

Don't worry about not being accepted by male peers, you will find a small group if you look in the right places, here for instance, yes we aren't in your area but we do accept you (I know this is your third or forth posting of a similar nature over the last 2-3 years). I never got on with my male peer group, couldn't understand their interests, i'm a geek and they didn't understand me either, now i'm in my 30's (late) its all come together (as of my early 30's late 20's), my geekiness has let me thrive doing what I do, and when I think of those that I couldn't understand and am so pleased I am not like them.
August 15, 2011 12:16:40 PM

blackhawk1928 said:
Any male who lives in a region with seasons who isn't able to spend at least a few hours on the sun (like during the winter) should be taking vitamin D pills...vitamin D is what gets your testosterone going.

I'm not kidding.


Any female too!

Vitamine D is very important for humans, not only with testosterone.
And we don't get enough while eating (sorry, i don't know how to say this in english... Les apports nutritionnels sont insuffisants car il existe peu d'aliments riches en vitamine D.)
December 19, 2011 9:59:34 AM

you just need to start working hard and then your thoughts would be free from all this stuff!!! believe me
January 1, 2012 7:23:41 AM

you can try some practices of yog, consult a yog expert and a therapist
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