Blonde Hair, Blue Eyed Female is just a friend!

That is touchy and likes to hug and peck kiss on cheek when parting...
Went thru some rocky times past two months....
Wife has Lupus, and it is disabling, she now walks with a cane, and has a scooter for long walks like shopping. It also is effecting her brain, memory loss, agitation and frustration, not to mention lack of sexual appetite and unfounded jealousy. She accused me of having an affair with our blonde blue eyed neighbor whom we were friends with for 4 years a few weeks ago, since they are getting divorced. We babysat her two kids while they worked for over a year, then divorce came up and she got insecure.
The neighbor, Katherine, is 6 years younger than me, and has boob job and liposuction recently, but she was not fat to begin with. Women!
Anyway, we were close, but not like that, but her getting a divorce changed that instantly. She now can see the signals of flirtation that of a desperate housewife looking for a mate. I have no history of affairs, but play along like always.
Anyway, one day recently she cussed her out when Cathy, two guy friends and myself made a beer run, and came back buzzed. Cathy told her not to worry, she won't try to taker her man, and gave her a pumpkin for Halloween, wife returned it and said she sees right thru her intentions, Cathy threw it in our yard, then apologized next day.
Wife claims I emotionally have an affair with her by being sympathetic to divorce and should stay away. I told her that is redicoulous, and I wont be told who or who not to have friends with, that went over well, practically confirming a relationship in her eyes.
Anyway, she moved and all is normal, but my best bud pf 30 years came by today, and she was all giddy in his company, as I was preoccupied, and told her afterwords that she was too emotionally supportive with him, and that affair had to stop. Well that went well, telling me it is not the same, but he had a crush on her while we were dating, and they do appear close, but I not worry, since I trust both of them. I was just funning, but she said it is not the same, and if it really bothers her, she would not speak to him. I told her that is not the point, but cut the crap about attacking my girl friends!... That did not go over well either... WTF!!! Double standards, I think it is the Lupus combined with just being female...

What say you guys and qoop!

That's just being female!

Take my word for it... not worth it!

I have a friend who says we are here to learn, become more complete and more loving beings. Is that what your females relationships are doing? Or are they just bolstering your ego? My friends asked me those same questions and the answers aren't necessarely easy to determine. Ultimately the question of your intentions in regards to female friedships is a very persoanl one that only you can know for yourself. A time for looking inside and what the others say can be taken into account but it's your live and journey.

That's a tricky one Rich. Your wife's condition is most unfortunate.

I really dont know whats fair and what isnt for a person suffering from Lupus. I mean, I'm guessing you've had to make some sacrifices in the marriage to accommodate the development of this condition; I'm also imagining that your stress levels would have been raised because of it also.

Mate, if indeed, her mental facilities are being altered then I dont know how relevant it is to argue with her over it if she is not 100% aware of what she is saying, particularly in relation to the jealousy thing.

Again, thats a real tricky one Rich, and I can only empathise for you and your wife in fighting that condition and the subsequent heartache that brings.

I understand your reply. everything happens in order for us to evolve and even though the path is inescapable, ultimatly you shall always have the last word in your journey, you will always have the choice. To have free choice is actually a bigger thing than we are accustomed to see. Free choice termines what things will gravitate around you and what reality you will create for yourself. I know it sounds new wavy and all that but just ponder this for a moment.

If you've seen "what the bleep do we know" there is this scene where amanda looks into the mirror and chooses to hate what she sees and then, in a moment, she then remembers something she had heard earlier and that was a study from a japanese scientist that proved that thought could affect the molecuar state of water and she also remembered another person telling her that if thought could affect water and since our bodies are 90 % water then how would thought affect our bodies. she then changes the quantum field of her reality buy choosing a more loving path of though, she chooses to see her reflection in the mirror with positive and life supporting thoughts.

How does this relate to the women you refer too? Well, that's the thing. I can't help you there as ultimatly it's all up to you to see what you wish to see as at every moment the interpretation of their actions is in the realm of infinit possibilities......YOU choose.....

Rich it is obvious your to good natured to cheat on your wife and it is also obvious that you are looking for approval of the anyone so you can find a way to bone miss blue eye's/blond/now single lady.

However you have to realize that anyone who failed her own relationship and also had surgery on her own body is going to have many mental health issues of her own so don't go there. You will open a big can of Woop@ss on your own sanity.

No Sadly I fell head over heeels for my best friends daughter she is 19 years old now and thinks of me as UNCLE.

Life sucks!!

P.S she knows too and teases me relentlessly

Doubble P.S my wiffe also knows and thinks it's cute. Oh well it keeps me young.

hehe, it is called marriage, I have had my share in days gone by, kiddelling. Through experience and wisdom has shown me that it ain't worth it!

Marriage is not castration.
Wisdom is not impotency.

OK, I've thought about it, your female friend can carry my baby. It's the blonde hair/blue eyes, she'd be a good serogate for our child.

Oh, so if anyone with brown hair and brown eyes would prefer his son to look like himself it's OK, but when a blonde haired/blue eyed gentleman thinks that, it's third reich time?

Singling out people of a certain discription for demonization, isn't that what Hitler did? So now who's more like Hitler, me or you?

Mate, listen, I was trying to be funny with the first comment regarding Hitler, it didnt come off, so no disrespect, ok.

Have a 8) day, Crash.

LOL!

Yeah, I do dig blondes with big knockers.

Bill, that book is banned where you live, no? And you read this? **authorities have been contacted and are taking appropriate actions**