Hello All, What's Up!

I'm experiencing a life changing event. AKA Divorce. That's why I haven't been posting for the last eight months. So far I still have my new house and I got to keep my pension earnings. For the next few years I'll be paying 2k per month in child and spousal support.
I still like hooters. The good news I have a girlfriend with great hooters.
Why did my marriage fail. I don't know and I don't think I will never understand why my wife left. All I know is life is better now.
I'll log back in on Friday. I spend most of my time with my girlfriend and she doesn't have an Internet provider.
Keep me posted on the new events. I don't have alot of time to browse the new forum and website layout. The last time I logged on was April 2005. From what I have seen it looks good and some members got their wish to become moderators.

She needed to go her own way i guess, has nothing to do with you so no need to feel bad. Hope to see you soon.

whats up hoot?

well hopfully things will turn out for the better.

I got a lawyer right after she left.
We have an interim separation agreement.
I have an appointment with my lawyer next Thursday to see what has to be done to finalize the agreement. Not much needs to be done more clauses and attachments have to be included but all the basics are covered with interim agreement.
I got the house with all the appliances and the debt.
She got the car and I pay for the lease and insurance for it.
We have joint custody of our children and I see them often.
She got most of the furniture. But I did get to keep my TV!
I had to buy small stuff like dishes and pots etc.
Anyway the first few months were hell. But now I have adjusted to my new life as best as possible. I have no money to play with. Everything has been cut back from food and heat to Internet speed. It's a big adjustment and depression creeps back up when I'm not aware.
I don't have any feelings for the ex anymore. I don't miss her and I don't care what she does with her life as long as my kids are not in danger.
I'm four months into my new relationship and all is going very well.
My ex is a high school drop out without employment. My girlfriend has a University degree in Mathematics and works for a large software company that develops Internet Security products used Fortune 500 companies. It's rare in the software industry but she is employed full time with full medical and retirement benifits for over six years with this company. She makes a lower salery than a contract worker but she has job security.
It's a good match. She knows all about software and I know about hardware so we have something in common and we always have something to talk about.
She also has a nine year old daughter which is great because my daughter is nine and my son is six. However when the three of them get together it can get noisy.

I'll try to pop by more often now that my situation is settling down and a final resolution is near. I miss my computer hardware hobby and keeping up with new technology. I don't have the big workstation tower anymore and I really miss it and all the great software I had loaded on it.

Here is the notebook computer I am currently using Toshiba PSM70C-DL300E.

You've reaffirmed my thoughts. I'm not getting married.

It's too risky these days.. Just to see what you have to go through.. life is great when you're in a relationship. Get married and then you end up thinking about who gets what.

You break up in a relationship and the other wants to know why you're leaving them. You get divorced and you're both happy to not speak with each other.

Wondered where you disappeared to, sorry about the divorce situation, been through one myself, seems like my life was on hold till it was over, the lawyer advice from dhlucke is solid and true, make sure you cover yourself well, the surprises can really screw you up if you're not prepared for them!

Hope all goes well for you! Ryan

I didn't disappear. I got lost and couldn't find my way home! It's weird. One day last spring I woke up and found myself in another dimension where my (ex) wife told me she didn't love me anymore packed her stuff and took the kids away. I took two months off work. Drank a lot of alcohol. Took a lot of 'pam's. Nursed back from hell by my parents, sister and friends. Joined a therapy group for depression. Saw my doctor everyweek for therapy for three months. Now it's once a month.
In September I started looking to meet a woman. The very day I was going to give up using Yahoo Personals because the women I met were more weird than me, the last woman I sent a message to turned out to be a perfect match and now we're a couple. I met her six weeks after using Yahoo Personals. I had a paid subscription to filter out the ultra weird women.
One thing I have learned is that it is ok to be messed up. Most people are. I have my family, my friends, my doctor who keeps me stoned and stable and most of all a wonderful woman who understands I'm not an average normal guy. The company I work for and my co-workers were a big help too.
As for drugs I have been on them for depression and anxiety since I was 19. I'm 36 now. Since my wife left and my life went into a tailspin my doctor took me off the the panzy pills and now he gives me the kind of drugs that work.
I suppose anyone reading this might think I was suicidal or physically abusive. Well suicide was looking like a good way out when she left with the kids but I have never attempted killing myself. I'm not a physical abuser. I didn't beat my ex wife nor have I hit my children.

Not much else to say now. Maybe later on in the week. No Internet connection until Thursday. Unless someone knows how to piggyback on someone's unsecured wireless network.

Wow!, didn't know you'd gone through all that, you make my divorce look like a picnic, you have survived though!

You've got to feel good about that, and you've found a good woman and your kids will always be yours, and if you're happy now, thats really all that matters!

I hope this turns out to be a great year for you!!!!

That is pure die hard dedication

I love Hooters.
If I gave up on women I would get myself breast implants.

I think I would pay to see that......

you're not a bad looking guy....I think you could pull it off nicely

Lo there Zyprd.

Mr. Hooter is back!

You got filtered out and you're salty.

Women teach us something? Please go on. This is fascinating. What could they teach us?

I was being facetious

to use your heart at least as much as your penis!

generally speaking pills are toxins to the body and i wouldn't be surprised that it is bad for the heart

It's more like a good workout for the heart, erm... I heard!

Drink a lot of beer and get a picture with two waitresses with your hands on their hooters. 8) 36D cups preferred.

That's terrible. I feel for you but you gotta know that it will get better. If you believe it will get better it will. It takes time though so you have to hang on. Don't give up.

zippy, there's always a reason why things happen.....just think that this experience will eventually make you stonger and you'll be able to take on anything that's thrown your way.

ah, i forgot the most important part!

if you ever find out she messin around, please cut her clit off and mail it to me. please please please?

i should ask for that method to be posted as a sticky! men could use it! no?

pook!

so... who is yOOOOOOOOOOOOUUUUUUUUUUr daddy?

Hi Scammy

I don't want the ex dead nor do I want to cut off her clit. It would have been easier to take if she was having an affair. But to end a twelve year relationship with two children because you're not in love with your husband does not seem to be a rational excuse.

What devistated me was she left six months after we moved into our brand new home. My dream house that I visited everyday for five months while it was being built. I thought it was her dream to move into the house too. Our children's school is across the street from the house too. In order to get into the house and to afford the extra bills I sold two things of property that meant a lot to me. The first was my show room condition '95 Chevy S10 pickup and the other was my Windows Vista ready PC. These things were not that hard to give up because I was getting my dream house in return.
Now I have to sell the house. I tried to swing keeping the house but it's impossible.
I lost my best friend. I lost seeing my children everyday. I lost my dream home that I wanted to live in past retirement. I lost most of my computer hardware hobby. I lost my truck. She has the 2003 Chevy Cavalier and I pay for the lease and the insurance. My Dad gave me '96 Neon to drive which has high mileage on it.
After the dust settled I found out who was there to help and protect me, my mom, dad and sister, my two best friends from high school and my co-workers.
In early October I met a beautiful woman with whom I would like to spend the rest of my life with. All I want to know is if her love is strong enough to take the stress that I have an ex wife with two children that I pay spousal and child support to. Even after I sell my house and I don't have a mortgage, property taxes and utilities to pay for I still have a credit debt to pay.
I have a great job in a good career and I make a good wage. But after I pay my spousal and child support I'll have about $1500 a month left over.
I hope my new love can accept the small amount of money I bring home for the long hours and crazy shifts I must work.
I was reading one of the other strings with Pike in it and the subject was about difference between Love and Lust. Someone posted Love hurts and Lust feels good. I'd say that's a pretty good explanation.

Pike the only way I have gotten this far is believing there is a reason for what has happened. Maybe it's a test of strength, a test of faith, or life is guiding me to the woman I was intended to be with.