Young Teenage Girls

dear god man, tie her up to the bed, have her exorcised and then lock her up till she is at least 25.

seriously, i think you need to keep her away from her group and get her some new friends. no matter how bad a person you may seem, you need to be her father and protect her from these influences.

of course i don't have kids and have no idea what i am talking about but it wasn't that long ago i was that age(is a decade a long time?) and i still remember that time, vaguely. Not that i was rebellious but people my age were and they need control.

well, i'm not sure, what to do. you need to stop people smoking around your daughter for one thing and make sure no drinking is going on and stop any drug use, it won't be long till someone knocks her up.

do you have her enrolled in any activities, i believe i have said this before but if you can keep her active and disciplined it might help.

you could go along with her and get to fight her in a formal supervised manner, you could use it as a means of communicating and understanding each other.

This is the main problem. You have to be firm and authoritive. It's your house, you ARE the authority. With my girls, 3 and 6, I try to reason with them but at a certain point, they gotta' get a good solid swat in the ass. You need to make it absolutely clear it is your house and with that comes your rules. A shrink, apologies to Wingy, isn't going to help if she won't respect your authoritie.[/Cartman]

Be loving, be compationate, understand she's a teenager and surely an emotional basket case. But most of all, be firm and MAKE her understand what is acceptable and what is not. When she moves out, she's free to do as she wants, but until then, she does what you want. Period. If you cave,, you're done for, and to a certain extent, she is.

She'll hate you now for it, but they all do, an will love you more than ever when she grows and understands.

For the record, the 3yr old's been swatted twice and the 6yr old only 4 times. When they know there's a price to pay, they get in line pretty quicky. I'll do everything I can for them, but they WILL NOT walk over Nicole and I.

I've been lucky with my oldest daughter. She will be 18 at the end of this month. She is well adjusted and has never been in any serious trouble. She does well in school and works part time at our local sheriff's department. There are times when I beat my head trying to reason with her - but I will tell you that being involved and firm discipline really helps.

I'm not saying that you are an uninvolved parent but your girl is obviously walking on you and your wife.You need to really put your foot down on the friends and lack of respect in your home. I would put an end to the smoking on your property. Lay down reasonable/logical rules and stick by them. Kids do need rules. It's tough but you have to do it.

You can't isolate her from her crowd but you might need to find a way to get her involved with better people to hang out with. Getting her involved with sports like some others have suggested is a good start and I think she is already. I would suggest that maybe if there is a way to move her to a different school, perhaps a private school that can possibly help her focus on her work - then do it. I'm not sure how practical this would be for your family and it may not be possible.

Regardless - you need to remove her from her current environment, or at least limit the exposure to the bad influences. There will be many battles that you will have to endure - be prepared. Just develop a thick skin and stay firm with the rules you set. Remind her that she lives with a family and is part of the family - how she conducts herself effects everyone in the family. Drugs, smoking, and other unacceptable behaviors should not be tolerated. You have a younger sibling that is exposed to this and could eventually follow suit. The problem would then only multiply. Your 14 year old and you are setting an example for her unintentionally. It's a hard one to break because some habits have already developed at this point.

Counseling may help. You have to help as well - or it will not work. Being a good parent is tough. Hang in there.

If all else fails - punch her in the face [/frustrated]

Do what they used to do in the old days - just smack them a few times.
Training them at a young age works too.

Harden the fock up Pike!

I agree, don't let her walk all over you, and try to limit her time with her "bad" friends.

It won't be easy, you won't be the nice guy, but you can't give her everything. It won't help long term, and the other two will expect the same (most likely).

Not me. If she's skipping school, have her drop out, get the GED (Good Enough Degree), put her in college and give her a head start over the stupid fcuks still going to high school. The freedom of college will give her an education, the chance at having her own porn star website, and time to hang with older people who are authorative.

It is a disservice to the world by killing off female prostitutes or potential ones. Money is to be made.

P/PC.

Punch her in the ovaries.

Punch her in the eye socket.

Kick her in the kidney stones.

Bite her nipple off.

Er...at what point were we being serious?
It's a forum; I was joking...I'm posting violent actions that I would never do...

maybe you're the sick pedo.

If you believe I would punch and kick a 14 year old girl then get a life you sick fcuk.

I never take anything serious around here, so lighten up you crack wh0re.

STFU crack wh0re.
It's just you being a jerk.

@ RC pilot.

My apologies then.
IMO I didn't think it would be taken so seriously.
In my defence who the hell on Earth would actually punch a child? There are those that would but I (hope) none of us here.

So apologies all round.

i didn''t see anything wrong with it, i was just interested to see how imaginative you were.

still, just so you know, i regularly strangle, slam into the ground and hold teenage girls on the floor, does this make me a bad person.

Office Policy:
The beatings will continue until morale improves.

Also, kids should be regularly beat to let them know they're worth. When they bring home a paycheck it should go directly to the ones supporting him/her, followed by a shift kick in their ass.

I'm all for spanking kids. Its the damned fools who take out their aggression in the spankings that give it a bad name.

Why doesnt this surprise me?

Oh, just wish to say that things went very well and my daughter has found out she was with a bad crowd. She said so herself. And she's now eager to get back to shool and her `regular`friends.

relief

I got money saying she's pregnant!

I, like Wingy, am happy to hear that. Please make sure she's not playing you. I don't mean to sound negative, just be careful.

Genuine best regards.

Tom.

you may wish to torture her a bit to make sure you are getting the turth, good old water torture should do ther trick, tie her to her bed, fill a paint tin with water(weak acid if you are being ruthless) and pop a hole in the bottom. after a while she should be deemed reasonably truthful.

hope this advice comes in handy.

I'm a bit like that. See how many days you can survive before you go insane.