How do i remove hotmail messenger its cant show in control panel

it's not a stand alone installed program it's installed in windows live Essentials with Windows Live Mail , Live Messenger . so you should Uninstall Windows Live Essentials in Programs & Feature but remember Live mail and other Application will also Uninstall with them, so before doing this you should take the Backup of your Mails.

Try this:

Start
Control Panel
Programs
Programs and Features
Windows Live Essentials
Click change/remove
It will then give you the option to pick which ''essentials" you want to remove. Ex:Messenger, Mail,

YES, that time Select Messenger to Uninstall.

I dont' have the Essentials on the list on my PC:-((