Paging Dr. Wingding for genuine psychology advice

Paging Dr. Wingding for genuine psychology advice...

I give up...women are not worth the frustration they cause...why is it I can't find a woman who is a straight shooter?...They get a nose ring on you and tug your chain and then leave you wondering whether or not they like you...life is fcvked up...I hate confrontation...I don't like sharing feelings...because every time I share a private feeling with a woman I feel vulnerable...and that is something I loathe with every fibre of my being...should I be an asshole and treat women like $hit...treat women the same way they treat me...is that the answer to equality in a relationship...I think I'm too nice...I always hope for the best in people...I have trouble communicating how I feel...I wish mutual feelings could be understood and not have to be spoken aloud...I feel like an emotional retard...I've stumbled my way through life screwing up every relationship I have been in...I've tried the attentive approach...I've tried the distant approach...I've kissed ass...I've been aloof...I'm going to be 40 in a few weeks and I know no more today about women than I did when I was 16...wtf is that about...it seems like every relationship I touch turns to $hit...Self help books...their paper BTU content is worth more than what’s printed in them. I'm an engineer so I appreciate analytical answers...I don't get the gray area between yes and no...I'm so goddamn frustrated I can't even laugh about it anymore because I feel like I'm going to live the rest of my life alone...and that is something I am very much afraid of...I have no desire to pay for sex and companionship but I understand why so many men pay prostitutes just to spend time with them and not have sex...The only thing I haven't tried with a woman is being an aggressive asshole...because my intelligence does not seem to attract women...If I hear I just want to be friends speech one more time I think my head will explode...

I'm sure I have...they would have been named differently...or done without verbal knowledge of the questions asked. In other words...psychological evaluation exams to see if I was a danger to myself or others.
For over twenty years I have been treated by a psychatrist for unipolar depression with generalized anxiety disorder. I follow cognative and medication treatment. I have never been considered a danger to myself or others nor have I been institutionalized for the treatment of depression.
The illness is more heriditary than situational.
I'm proactive with the treatment of my illness to actively participate in society.
Send me your tests. More than happy to complete your questions.

Fcvk it...over time things always seem better...I don't have tolerance for people who say they are going to do something and then leave you hanging...as far as I'm concerned they're not worthy of my friendship if they can't keep their word.

Day job...night job...what's the difference?...when you terrorize a village of idiots does it matter if it's day or night?

I dumped the woman causing me the grief. Hopefully I be feeling better in a few days.

I still prefer the real thing over a toy. Human contact is important.

The problem is that you are a lesbian trapped in a man's body.

I posted a doozie on this on your other posting of the same problem Zyp.

Lemme know if it helps at all. At the very least it can cure your insomnia......

I don't remember mentioning insomnia.
Went back and read posts in both threads.
No troubles with sleeping lately.
Thanks for the in depth reply.
My main problem...the women I have been attracted to haven't been attracted to me...or they're so messed up it would take a bus load of wingdings to treat their psychological problems...and then there's the ditchpig experience...an experience I would pay to forget.

side note to voko...I find that a good wank and spunk makes me relaxed and helps me sleep.

Next chick you are attracted to that you have more thana passing contact with, stop and try and take a look at why.

The obvious are things like looks. But look deeper. How does she carry herself? What kind of mood does she seem to display most often? Does she look at you? Does she avoid you? Does she remind you of someone?

Then look at women in the area that LOOK very similar, but you do not feel the same connection to, do your comparison.

As bad as it sounds, a lot of people have classic Oedipus complexes or other hangups that get them into trouble because they keep going after the wrong person. Women have the same, the "bad boy" complex that makes them think that the biggest arse in the world is so stringly in love with her that he is a completely different guy around her and that she can keep him that way forever. (The amount he changes his demeanor when around her = how much he cares as compared to other guys, etc etc).

All BS, but even BS starts somewhere. As soon as you start looking at it and KNOW why you are attracted to these women, rather than just FEELING it and going with it, you may be able to work with it, or get around it. Find someone that still has that hook, but is not someone that will hurt you (or you will hurt) later.

Aside from that, and not really KNOWING you, that is about all I can say. Get as personal or not as you like here. Your choice, but I hope my "brief" expositions here give you something to go on.

If not, try Vaseline Intensive Care. At least you will be well moisturized.

Then maybe it is the Anticomplex?