“Could regular ram made by some manufactuer other than Apple run in and Intel based Mac?”
***Apple doesn’t make the RAM. Several manufactuers make it. You can buy RAM for a Mac from Newegg from many different manufactuers.
http://www.newegg.com/Store/SubCategory.aspx?SubCategory=551&name=Mac-Memory
“I think the CPU's are identical and the motherboards are made by Intel now too.”
***The motherboards are made by Intel via Foxconn.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foxconn
I don’t know about the desktops but for the MBP, the graphic chips are the same as for PC notebooks. Apple is using the NVIDIA GeForce 8600M GT graphics processor with dual-link DVI support and 256MB of GDDR3 SDRAM.
http://www.nvidia.com/object/geforce_8m.html
“I think the BIOS they use is different.”
***Yeah, it’s called EFI. The Extensible Firmware Interface (EFI) is a specification that defines a software interface between an operating system and platform firmware. EFI is intended as a significantly improved replacement of the old legacy BIOS firmware interface historically used by all IBM PC compatible personal computers[1]. The EFI specification was originally developed by Intel, and is now managed by the Unified EFI Forum and is officially known as Unified EFI (UEFI).
In January 2006, Apple Computer shipped their first Intel-based Macintosh computers. These systems use EFI and the Framework instead of Open Firmware, which had been used on their previous PowerPC-based systems.[8] On April 5, 2006 Apple released Boot Camp which produces a Windows XP Drivers Disk as well as a non-destructive partitioning tool to help users easily install Windows XP. A firmware update was also released which added legacy BIOS support to its EFI implementation. Subsequent Macintosh models shipped with the newer firmware. Now all current Macintosh systems are also able to boot legacy BIOS Operating Systems like Windows XP.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extensible_Firmware_Interface