Ok, so I found a few other sites and now I've set it up like this.
C1E & Speedstep disabled
PCI-e spectrum disabled
Now it's 1:1 in cpu-z and running @ 3600Mhz.
Core Temps (Real Temp): 33 degrees Celcius
Looks ok to me, because I read posts about temp above 50 with similar settings.
About the memory timings, I've read something about the timings that 4-4-4-12 and 5-5-5-15 doesn't make that much of difference?
So I think I'll leave it at this, unless somebody says I should go further to get more out of it without stressing it too much.