OW OW IT HURTS.
call me crazy but 2 rows of 5 pins sounds like a serial killer to me
get the dvi to vga adapter on the video card, and make sure ... wait, have you ever built a computer? no video card can be 'turned on' in bios. you can certainly disable one of them if you have onboard and an additional add-in board.
Better yet - where did you get the computer. walmart? give us some details, a picture of the back of your computer or insides would be excellent in getting a p35 w/9600gt off the ground.