since i'm not allowed to edit the previous post I'm forced to make a second one.
this is the link to my other topic http://www.tomshardware.co.uk/forum/page-255101_11_0.html
I hope u don't see it as highjacking the topic :P
My RAM problem is very similar to yours so I think we can both get the answer here.
and I posted the link for those who feel like helping me out, because untill now everyone has ignored my topic :P and I really can't do this without u guys.