i cannot access my own aol account
The one thing I found about gmail accounts is that you can pull up the data and see where the email originated from or the different accounts that are using a particular email address. In an open email, you click on the right hand drop down menu and click 'original', and it will bring up where the message started, and how it changed hands before it got to you. On some of these emails, it changes domain name, email addresses and such sometimes half a dozen times before it hits my box. The only thing I can do is filter them out and send to trash, as I can't stop them.
I'm sure this doesn't help if you don't have an email account with GMail, but set one up, it's free, and you can have your mail forwarded to GMail from AOL, and open it in GMail.
AOL accounts are hijacked frequently. If you use IE for a browser, try using Firefox, as they do not have the security issues that IE does.