Hi guys and thanks to sminlal for getting me motivated.
After plenty more blogs and forums and reading he manual I found my answer.
When I followed the instructions for turning on AHCI and went to the bios to activate it, well I went to the AHC10 controller and it turned on all my HHDs except my SSD. It seems in the ASUS Rampage 3 MOBO there are two places to adjust your contoller divers. Go to ADVANCED and you will find the 6gb/s port there set to IDE. Change it to AHCI. Reboot and then according to the other forums the Marvel contrller passes TRIM to the SSD only if the Intel driver is installed (not the Marvel one) Figure that one out. So currently I am still runnin my SSD in non trim mode, I will fix that tonight. So moral of the story, SSD is great but only if you have a tech background confident enough to fiddle in your BIOS and test which mode is best for your board. Boy what a mission!