Overclocking DDR2 RAM in a Acer Aspire 6530...How?

In a laptop it generally can not be done.

even if i am able to remove the ram and see it and stuff? Like i can see it if i open the laptop case and see it..(if it matters)

No that does not matter. Overclocking is done in the BIOS and the BIOS in laptops are generally locked. Overclocking generates more heat and that is something laptops have problems dealing with even on stock speeds. The wiki pages are a good place to start learning.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BIOS

Overclocking the RAM by itself will not really result in the computer being noticeably faster. Overclocking the processor helps much more in day to day tasks but again in laptops, unless they are specially built gaming machines you are prevented from overclocking the processor as well. This also holds true in most OEM desktop systems as well. Dell, HP and other mass market sellers do not want you to overclock so they ship all but high end gaming systems locked. They use cheap parts and they do not make any money if you can speed up your computer yourself!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overclocking

Those of us who do overclock generally build our own computers because buying part by part results in a system that can be configured however we want. Also the higher end parts are designed to go beyond stock speeds and voltages and they can handle the higher temps that come from faster speeds.

sooo....amd turion X2 Ultra 64 is a bad processor?wow i should have rethought about buying my laptop...cause i game with it and when i play TF2 i get about 90 - 120 fps.. but it not on max settings... its on like medium...

You missed the point. You do not have a bad processor. You have a laptop. Laptops do not overclock unless you buy high end dedicated gaming versions, even then do not expect them to overclock like desktops because of heat.

well in that case.....craap...i was really hoping to find something to really increase tf2 (and other games) performance... :'-(

Most game performance is determined by the graphics processor or GPU. Once again with a laptop you are stuck with what you have.
I really do suggest you spend a week or so reading up on basic computing. You sure do not want to try overclocking things before you understand what parts are used for what.

http://www.howstuffworks.com/pc.htm
http://www.comptechdoc.org/basic/basictut/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motherboard
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Central_processing_unit
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Random-access_memory
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Graphics_processing_unit
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hard_disk_drive