Will this video card or the cpu be the bottleneck?

Please repost the link to the cpu since the one you listed has been deactivated.

Bottleneck is the term used when one component holds the rest of your computer back and prevents it from performing at its full potential. Such as when a person tries to use a high end graphics card with a weak cpu.

fixed the link for cpu but basically its a amd phenom 2 x4 3.0 ghz quad core

That cpu won't hold back anything so no need to worry about that lol.
Instead of the 9800 GTX+ get the GTS 250 it is the revised version of the same card: http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E168...

yea i saw that a few days ago and completely forgot about that lol. thanks! oh yea how far up the video card line before my cpu starts becoming the bottleneck?

You could run a GTX 285 and not worry about your cpu holding it back so you'll be fine for a few years.