2) if you don't want to OC then wait for the 975 EE, if you're going to overclock then get a 920 and spend the extra money on the best water cooling setup you can afford.
3) the i7's can't run 6 ram modules at any clock speed above 1333mhz so save yourself some money.
4) a Corsair 1000HX will do the job if you don't go for my idea.
5) VRaptor's aren't worth it, just get a couple of 1TB drives instead as you'll only lose a few MB/s on the read/write but you get a lot more storage and it costs less.
6) for a case you'll need an E-ATX case, so look at the coolermaster HAF 932 and the atsc 840.
yeah i think i agree with just about all of that. Dude you have way too much money not a bad thing but i wouldn't put it into an i7 965...
Like helloworld said, I would either wait for the 975 or just get the 920 and OC it well. You aren't going to see any more (noticeable) performance in the 965, and you will save a good $700. For the extremist, i would go liquid all the way. i have no advice on the matter, however. I guess if you found yourself not technically able you could pay someone to do it for you.
I have heard before that quad sli is not well optimized yet. i have heard that tri sli might not even be that optimized yet (of course some games take better advantage then others). With that in mind, I myself would probably go tri-SLI gtx 285's. I would sell them when the new GPU's came out and get those. I've been through these forums and i have heard (but i cannot confirm) that presently, three 285's will outpace 2 295's (depending on what you play).
For the amount of GPU power you want to push, i would definitely recommend the Corsair 1000HX
If this is only your second build, then you better be one freakin hard core gamer! otherwise that's just frustrating...
I have also heard the v-raptors aren't worth it. i would suggest two WD caviar blacks (pick your size)
I also like the HAF 932. plenty of room for the next few thousand dollars you want to put into this system and very good cooling. It will probably be very, very loud but i bet you can afford to buy a nice speaker system to drown it out
Someone else can take over on the other parts. I myself have only looked into the mid-high range, not the extreme. Therefore i probably can't be much help, because i would be looking at price/performance more than extremism lol Good luck to you though. This will be a killer system.