I have the same motherboard and a 1045t overclocked to 3.4 Ghz with this small cooler and a second fan for a push-pull setup.
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16835103064
I can tell you that leaving the voltages in "auto" generated too much heat for my humble cooler. (The voltages were in the mid 1.4 range on auto)
I ended up with a negative voltage offset that brought my full-load voltage to around 1.33 to 1.34 volts @ 3.375 Ghz. Max temp is 55c after an hour of prime95 with average temps a few degrees lower.
I set my FSB to 250 and only changed the timing on my Patriot sector 5 ram from 7-7-7-20 to 9-9-9-24 and let it run at 1333 (1332 actually).
I also lowered my turbo multiplier so that it only turbos up to 3.7 Ghz. I was getting BSOD when it was trying to turbo on the low voltages at 4Ghz.
I have been using this setup for almost a week and it's been great. Just crunched a bunch of HD video from the track over the weekend and it cut through it like butter.
If I could fit a larger cooler in the case, I would probably up the voltage and go closer to 4 Ghz, but 3.4 is still pretty snappy compared to the stock clock.