Well I wanted to come back and give my results so anyone else stupid as I was can have hope. So here is what transpired:
Initially I was in a rush to set up my Qnap nas server to replace the dlink I had and tried to break my Raid 0+1 apart into 2 raid0 setups so I could use the one pair of drives to take data off of my old Nas. The bios software was very limited and I ended up delting the raid array. I recreated it the same (didn't move any of the cables around to change ports) by chosing the default drive order as I would have thought that was how it was originally done when I made the computer. I used a Windows 7 cd to try and repair the drive, but it would not see it. So I went and repartitioned it. After that, I could still not repair it. After posting here, I decided to go back into the bios as I had nothing really to lose thinking I had lost my data. I broke the raid, tried again to reconstruct it, and went to repair it through that software, but never followed through thinking that might be a more permanent destruciton. So I recreated back to raid 0+1 (as i had done many times already) as it was and tried out some of the software free trials.
The one above I mentioned found some files, but had them all jumbled into a single window. Now to be fair I didn't poke around the software much but it did not seem to have recovered much.. barely enough for me to consider purchasing. Also, with 4 or so versions of software (file recovery, partition recovery, raid recovery..etc..etc) I was not sure which one to get, and they never responded to my email. I went to other websites to look at software, and found pretty well the same 4 packages, but different names.. upon running the interfaces seemed almost identical so I got the feeling whomever is selling that software has the same thing under multiple names.. which gave me some red flags.
So I continued to look around and found something called 'active@file recovery for windows'. They have a partition recovery and raid recovery as well. I was not sure what to try so I tried the partition recovery but was not exactly sure what I was seeing, or what I should do so I decided against doing anything. The file recovery however was fairly straight forward. It took a looong time to do a surface scan (over night). I was surprised in the morning to see a list of boots and local disks that it had found and listed in order of quality. I went into the disk that had the best quality and to my amazement saw the entire directory structure identical as to what I had it.. the software shows it like a standard explorer directory tree. I made the mistake though of clicking on 'recover' after highlighting the drive. I am not sure why, but it may have been every time I rebuilt the raid certain files got duplicated and erased..most of them.. like 7 or 8 times.. so just clicking on restore would restore all these versions of the same file (all the deleted copies as well) and be a massive restore. But under 'view' there is 'existing files/folders' that if you click on only shows the existing files and not all those deleted ones so you can recover only those. I quickly paid the 34$ and and upgraded to restore. And I am pleased to say absolutely every file is back and intact... amazing after all I did to the drives.
Since the directory is so intact, i'm not sure why I couldn't make this bootable again.. maybe will mess around and see what I can do now data is saved.