Follow these steps and you'll be good to go:
1. Read several guides on fx overclocking (phenom II guides will work as well because they are very similar when it comes to OCing).
2.Don't use any auto overclocking apps
3.Don't overclock from the OS, always use BIOS
4.Use what you learned from the guides and do some testing.
5. Report your results to the AMD overclocking club.
No one is going to want to tell you exactly what to do since everyone's chip is going to overclock differently and repeating information that is readily available online is tedious.
Thanks! your tip #3 helped me the most, i didn't realize you weren't suppose to use the oc software. I went to my BIOS and oc'd my CPU to 4.4! thanks for the help!!!