i thought the temps were out...
currently my CPU is at 42oC (web browsing) and the motherboard is at 28oC...
these temps are similar to what i saw with the stock cooler.
i have an anti-static, ill use that, but good idea
i think i did the thermal paste alright, i used AS-5 applied it very thinly all over the heatsink base with a business card?
ill check out youtube and read around anyway, thanks for the help!
EDIT: when i posted CPU temp had dropped to 35oC and then to 36oC when i wrote this edit
EDIT2: i tried pressing the heatsink into the CPU and saw no reasonable temperature drop (instad of moving around 36-34 it moved from 36-33, so obviously not the main problem)