We'll the Asus is out. I think the answer is that the W3600/X5600 don't work with ECC or maybe it might, or maybe it's the memory, or maybe not. It's hard to tell if Asus has actually tested any part of this combination or not. At any rate I couldn't get a clear confirmation that ECC would work and it's an essential criteria for me so the asus was returned unopened and the w-series processor will either get turned around in shipping or returned as well.
Plan B (or maybe it's C now) is the supermicro X8DAH+ and a single X5680 with the 24gb Kingston I already have. Additional components are Lian Li case (that I've got to modify for the X8DAH's ++ size), Corsair ax850, HD5950, LSI sas, Cheetah's and WDBlacks, and I'm going to give an ssd a try for the OS.
I asked supermicro support every question I could possibly think of and each time the answer was quick, concise, and best yet I'm confident in the answers.
The cost is almost a grand more but in the end I've got an improved pci-e setup (for my purposes), and the option to double the processing power and memory in the near future if this turns out to be a decent year business-wise. It would have been cheaper both for the board and processor to use one of the X58 boards but none of this series had the PCI-e capability I need.
While the previous supermicro board I had only lasted a year I should note that IIRC this was an odd-ball board that I think was meant to be rebranded and was supposed to be support by the retailer. Mine went out of business a few months after purchase unfortunately. Pre-sales support has been excellent.
Thanks again for the help......