huh, so heres the full story:
I originally got a gateway computer and It advertised ddr3 800 ram, and I used that computer and life was good... Until I needed more than intel integrated for games.
So I got a new case (original was form factor) a new mobo and new ram for the mobo (it needed ddr2) and a gts 250 (it has served me well). and built another computer with the old mobo and ram and case (and some parts we bought.) And life was good... Until my computer got hot under loads, so I got a better case which helped.
So now im looking to upgrade my processor, so I logon to the computer with the original ram (ddr3) and type lshw (it runs linux, lshw lists the hardware) and lo and behold its 1333MHz mem that was advertised as 800MHz. So this whole post was irrelevant, sorry. Thanks for the help anyway! The only question I have now is why did they advertise the mem as a lower clock speed when the cpu's fsb was 1333 as well? But I really don't need an answer to that.