Hey snip55,
You need to relax a bit and stop using so many !!!!!!, when you type. Most people come on here trying to honestly help people answer their questions, as we are for you, nobody is forcing or paying us, were are all just trying to help you. And demanding for the answers you want is no way to ask for help either.
Now as for your questions:
If your trying to save money just go for the AMD 965 BE and a nice mobo, if your want the best performing chip its the Intel i5-760, PERIOD. You must also consider games you will wan to play in the future when making a choice.
AND, I'll say it one more time, just to be positively clear. There is no such gains/advantages by using CPU-A/B with GPU-A/B, or any combination there of. I don't know where you picked up this "matching" term but it is 100% pure donkey baloney.
We cannot decide if the value of the i5-760 is a waste or too much $ for you, ONLY you can. It all depends on how much you want/can to spend and the performance your looking for. Its a decision, one or the other: lower performance and save or better performance for a little bit more, its not that difficult . Since you are playing "CPU hungry games" then the best choice is the i5-760.