Well i ended up buying a GTX 465 didn't really feel like getting a 460. From what I have been told you can flash a 470 bios to them. well.... that seems alittle to hard for me and i really dont know how to do it, also dont feel like RMA'ing the card. If anyone here has any true idea of how to over-clock a 465 please let me know.
You should have just stuck with the GTX 460 1 GB since it performs faster than the GTX 465 in some cases (and it overclocks higher). I recommend that you do not overclock any more than 15% as it can mess things up severely. Here is how you overclock: go to your Nvidia control panel, find the overclock tab, unlock it and overclock your Core Clock about 60 Mhz and your Memory Clock about 100 Mhz.