Hello Juan. I agree with you 100%; it isn't necessary to use the same amount of power as a hair dryer or even a toaster just to play games. I would suggest, however, that USING power and WASTING power aren't the same thing. I don't mind USING 250W half as much as I mind WASTING 100W.
One of the most significant things you can do to reduce wasteful power consumption is to get an efficient PSU. A low power gamer will run quite nicely on a 380W 80+ Bronze Antec Earthwatts. Do that first, and see what difference there is in your power use.
After that, your requirements don't appear to be that high, if you consider 20FPS playable (many people do not). If that's on your laptop, with its integrated HD3200 graphics, then you might be very happy with the performance of a HD5670. It needs no auxiliary power connector. It is a weaker card than your 9800GTX though; if you'd rather not lose the graphics muscle, look into a HD5750 which is similar, but uses less power.
Keep in mind though, that paying $80-$130 on a new graphics card is a lot more expensive than an extra dollar or two a month for electricity. If you have, or are preparing for a solar power installation, then every watt counts, otherwise it may be what is called "penny wise and pound foolish."