You picked a H67 motherboard for a 2500K cpu. It will work, but you can not overclock using a H67 motherboard. The 2500K is good, but I suggest a P67 motherboard which allows the K to OC.
There are few micro-atx P67 motherboards out. I suggest the asus P8P67-M or P8P67-M pro. The latter is more expensive, but can allow sli. http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E168...
As to how to do it, I suggest you download and read, cover to cover, the manuals for your motherboard and case.
purcahse date: I'd prefer to order within a week but its not too important is something else is coming out or to wait for a deal.
budget range: max 1000 after rebates
parts not required: keyboard mouse, monitor
preferred newegg but what ever is cheapest.
im in the US, California to be specific
no parts prefrence really though i guess i prefer nvidia read alot of good things about the GTX 460 and the i series i read is currently better than AMD but it doesn't matter that much.
overclocking is a maybe.
SLI/crossfire is a maybe also keeping both of them open.
umm currently i'm using my tv as a monitor its a 1920x1080. but i have a backup regular monitor not sure about that one resolution though.
additional comments: i was thinking i could just use the tower from the HP that i have right now to save some money i couldn't tell the motherboard size that it would fit its a Hp elite m9160f also i was hoping this could last me for quite awhile
are the main things i'm looking at, any thing that would go with them would be fine with me, and i'm having trouble finding a non sold out p67. and the tiger direct one is kind of expensive. or would 170 be the average?
180-190 for a CFX & SLI capable P67 is probably closer to the average. But it's part of our job to find good deals.
I looked into keeping your HP Pavilion Elite m9160f case. It doesn't fit the 'gaming quality' of the rest of the parts in your build and looks to have some challenges in cooling. A smaller CPU cooler would likely be needed than the one I'm suggesting here.