Integrated graphics motherboard is completely worthless if you're going to buy a video card; there are little to no practical gain to be had by crossfireX the two.
The DDR5 vs. DDR3 thing is not what you should focus on. Instead, look at the performance of the cards as a whole. As with processor clock speed, higher is not always better; the architecture, number of cores, on-die cache, the given application, and several other factors will dictate performance. Similarly, although DDR5 is generally better, it is possible for a DDR3 card to be faster than a DDR5 at certain tasks and in certain cards.
Again, greghome makes a good suggestion. The 5750 is the best you can do for around 100, at least this week. The best price/performance cards change every week. Furthermore, prices are in a high upswing right now in my opinion, and this may not be the best time to buy.
Consider a 6850 for $160 shipped:
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16814150551 If you're lucky you might even get the rebate.
The best I can do to help you decide is probably this. Assume: (1) 1024x768/1280x1024; (2) 1440x900/1600x900; (3) 1920x1080
Playing Metro2033 and Crysis2, among the most performance hungry games out right now.
5750 - 1 is great, even at max settings. 2 is playable at med settings, max probably not playable. 3 is unplayable at anything other than low to medium settings.
6850 - 1 and 2 are great, you will notice slowdowns only occasionally at near max settings. 3 is still playable at high settings with just a little AA and AF turned on.
Those are estimates from personal experience and benchmarks. Greghome is running a 6850 (correction 6950), perhaps he can correct me on the performance he sees. The point I am trying to make is that the 5750 is good for your current monitor, but you will not be happy with it once you upgrade. The difference is $45 USD, but will save you from upgrading your video card later. Here's the tie breaker for me: if you bought a second 5750 later on to crossfire, the performance of 2x5750 is only a little better than 1x6850 at higher resolutions. It is highly unlikely that the 5750 will be less than $50 in a year or two, what is more likely is that you won't be able to buy one at all. Moreover, your system would then be capped GPU wise, whereas a single 6850 would allow you to buy a second 6850 later (hopefully they will be around in 2 years) and thus extend the life of your system another couple years. The new call of duty and battlefield are coming out soon, and don't forget Diablo3, etc. etc. If you want to enjoy these games as they are meant to be played, mow a few extra lawns and pony up the $45 bucks!
Good luck.