actually I forgot i posted this thread, after a while of sulking, i realized that the back plate was removable as well as the extra vga port. for anyone else with the same confusion as me... the back plate is removed by unscrewing the anchors for the actual plug (i.e. the part the screws on the side of a large multi pin port such as vga, screw into... that part should unscrew).
Also, the graphics card is working to my expectations, and is great for someone with a slimline with only a 250W power supply but it should also be noted that this card can fit a regular size case as well
thanks to addict and king smp for your advice
also i went with the 4550 with 1gb I saw teh 4650 but i believe it asked for a higher power requirement and I thought I was pushing it with the 4550 since it asked for a 350 i believe... But my 250 must have some left over cause its going pretty good.
One last thing.... why don't they actually put the peak and mean wattage use for a card... it makes it hard to know what you can put together.... it seems from other posts that the wattage recommended is always a good bit higher than what is really necessary? or perhaps they run a little faster with more wattage flowing.
any thoughts on these would be welcome