i think i just found the problem. i have a i7 3770k, i need BIOS version 1.3 to use the CPU. i have the default, 1.1. i can't update without a CPU, right? so i either bring it to my local tech store and let them do it or buy a celeron G530 for 50$ off of newegg and update it. either way it would probably be around 50$, but me and the guy at the tech store are pretty much buddies now. he would probably do it for 25$. but i could buy the CPU and use it for a average build for someone, or just sell it. i should probably save myself the embarrassment and just buy the CPU. http://www.msi.com/product/mb/Z77A-GD55.html#?div=CPUSupport
that is the support list. you can see that all ivy bridge and Xeon CPUs are V2/3. that is why people have the same RAM as me and it works fine. lol.