Help me choose a video card for my big monitor

It's not the physical size of the monitor that matters, it is the resolution. The performance on a 100" 1920x1200 LCD monitor (doesn't really exist), will be the same as on a 27" 1920x1200 LCD monitor.

See following for GTX 580 benchmarks, the test rig uses an Intel Core i7 920 @ 3.8 GHz:
http://www.techpowerup.com/reviews/MSI/HD_6970_Lightning/6.html


Click following link for benchmarks that includes both GTX 580 and GTX 560 SLI. The test rig has an i7-975 Extreme Edition processor @ 3.3GHz.

http://www.xbitlabs.com/articles/graphics/display/geforce-gtx-560-sli_3.html#sect1
 
The 580 (616 fps) gets trounced by twin 560's (792 fps) and even more so by twin factory overclocked 560's (862 fps).... and twin 560's cost less money:

Guru3D uses the following games in their test suite, COD-MW, Bad Company 2, Dirt 2, Far Cry 2, Metro 2033, Dawn of Discovery, Crysis Warhead. Total fps (summing fps in each game @ 1920 x 1200) for the various options in parenthesis (single card / SL or CF) are tabulated below along with their cost in dollars per frame single card - CF or SLI:

$155.00 460-768 MB (314/592) $0.49 - $0.52
$155.00 6850 (371/634) $0.42 - $0.49
$170.00 6870 (434/701) $0.39 - $0.49
$245.00 6950 (479/751) $0.51 - $0.65
$265.00 6950 Frozr OC (484/759) $0.55 - $0.70
$265.00 560 Ti (455/792) $0.58 - $0.67
$315.00 6970 (526/825) $0.60 - $0.76
$220.00 560 Ti - 900 Mhz (495/862) $0.44 - $0.51
$335.00 570 (524/873) $0.64 - $0.77
$500.00 580 (616/953) $0.81 - $1.05
$725.00 6990 (762/903) $0.95 - $1.61
$700.00 590 (881/982) $0.79 - $1.43

The twin 900Mhz 560's beat the single 580 by 40% in fps and cost $60 less. At 2560 x 1600 tho, I'd look at either twin 6950's or 6970's.