Are you choosing internet or lan game? I've never played that game to know for sure but most dedicated servers have a lan and internet game option. If you are choosing internet game on the server you will likely have to choose lan game on your client computer because you are on the same physical network as the server. I've seen that on lots of other games so this one might be the same way.
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