You can't use Physx with a ATI card.Physx is a Nvidia ability for their cards and that doesn't work the same for ATI cards.You cannot combine the 6870 and the 9600GT,just won't work.
No you cannot use a crossfire/sli with only 1 PCI-express x16 slot.Crossfire or SLI refers to multiple cards being used at the same time.Except for the dual GPU cards like the 5970,6990 and the GTX590 you will need more than 1 PCI-express x16 slot to use Crossfire/SLI.
No you cannot use Hybrid Crossfirex with your current mobo.To be honest Crossfirex is a big hastle and not worth it for the performance it gives.It's only like a 2% increase in performance,not really worth the trouble it takes to set it up.
Yes,if you buy the 2000mhz RAM you will need to enter the timings manually but it's really really simple.
Don't use AMD Overdrive to do anything.AMD Overdrive has a lot of software issues and bugs.Sometimes it will force your CPU into a powerstate which will cause it to overheat.I wouldn't reccomend using AMD Overdrive at all.Use the BIOS,it's much more simple and it's always good to learn to use the BIOS because their are many more options and things you should fimliarize yourself with in there.
Here is a Crossfire/SLI capable motherboard but it will cost you about $20 more and it's micro.
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16813130269
This board use's 2133mhz RAM instead of the 2000mhz RAM so you will need different RAM.
http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16820231449