meatball2860 :
i sound like a dumb bum but i thought quad sli was 4 memory sticks but it turns out crossfire is 4 memory sticks
and thanks for the links alot. i need help cause im not that smart
I don't quite get what you are trying to say here but if you are thinking that Quad SLI or Quad Crossfire has anything to do with ram then you are wrong. Both SLI and Crossfire (dual/triple/quad) represent how many nVidia and AMD(previously ATI) graphics cards (identical cards) you can in your system at the same time with SLI and Crossfire enabled.
What you may have confused Quad SLI or Quad Crossfire with is Quad Channel Memory.
Quad/Triple/Dual Channel Memory means how many RAM CARDS will be used to process your work at the same time. They will use 4,3,2 cards respectively at the same time.
If you have Dual Channel memory with 3 ram cards installed then your system will work at single channel. For dual channel you need to have 2or 4 cards installed at the same time. For quad channel you need to have 4 or 8 cards installed at the same time.