SO, I bought these parts: Asrock 970 extreme3, Fx-4100, and a ZalmanZ9 Plus.
I was putting everything together correctly and I put on the cooler to the cpu, put some ram in, plugged in the 24 pin and the 8 pin, hooked in the cpu fan, installed the graphics card, did the front panel i/o, which I am still edgy about, and finally, did all the sata cables, double checked all the fans, and the front panel, and the power connectors.
And then finally hooked it up to an outlet and pressed the power button.
So, I threw her on a testbench, outside the case, plugged in errything, and still no response.
Also tested it on another board MSi 760-p23 fx or something.