I can answer all of your questions!! I just got a 3570k, and I've tested it on two motherboards, with and without liquid cooling.
1) With the stock cooler, I am able to push it to 3.9 Mhz, so a .5 Mhz increase, while forcing the voltage to stay at 1V, and it is stable, pretty much. It works for operating, prime95 crashed once, and worked once for a while. This time I'm about the same temps, 72C max, 65 or so median.
I would say max I could imagine going would be 5.0 with good liquid cooling, but I bet people go higher with supercooled liquid.
2) I don't know about heat, but with my 4.6Mhz overclock, I scored a 7.5 in Cinebench 11.5, which is pretty good. It easily beat out the highest 2500k that I saw on their lists, even i7-2500k's. Like I said, this is with liquid cooling, pushing about 60C on average during full load. Look online for heat values of each one, if you're worried about heat. Not to be mean, but it sounds like you have a lot of reading to do to successfully overclock, so maybe you shouldn't worry too much about pushing the limits of your CPU heat-wise right now. It really is very complicated. Please, do it if you want to, but be safe, and never touch your components while they're in use.
3) With liquid, a Antec Kuhler H620, and aftermarket MX-2 thermal paste, I got up to 4.6 Mhz stable, with a max C of 70 and a median of about 60 in Prime95 for 4 hours. With the stock cooler, you would have to reference Tom's Hardware reviews. You can also do a google search. Each CPU has a different good temp. I hear the max temp you want on a 3570k is about 75C, but it is rated all the way to like 105C. So 75 is pretty safe.
4) No, you shouldn't. Overclocking will up your voltage slightly if there are power adjusment settings in your BIOS, but your CPU shouldn't overwattage itself for more than it does now. You will see heat increase, but not total wattage usage. I've never seen mine use more than 50W.