chipdip :
Thanks for answering with so much detail and making recommendations. The games id like to play are SWOTOR, Mass Effect 3, and if possible Battlefield 3. Once again thanks for answering
(i know these are newer than what i said but it'd be nice to play these too)
Mass Effect 3 is a heavily rendered game, meaning it should run at pretty decent frame rates (30+) even with a 6850. BF3 and SWOTOR, however, unless you play on lower graphics, won't be as smooth (especially during multiplayer action)
I recommend, at least:
http://www.amazon.com/SAPPHIRE-Radeon-6870-GDDR5-Graphics/dp/B005C8RTTU/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1340854745&sr=8-1&keywords=6870
(will give you another ten framerates as opposed to the 6850, it's little brother))
http://www.amazon.com/Sapphire-DL-DVI-I-SL-DVI-D-PCI-Express-100312-3L/dp/B005X64QAG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1340854799&sr=8-1&keywords=6950
(20 framerates)
http://www.amazon.com/EVGA-Dual-DualLink-DisplayPort-Graphics-012-P3-2066-KR/dp/B0069RZ0LW/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1340854880&sr=8-1&keywords=gtx+560+ti+448+ftw
(30 framerates plus! A luxury if you can afford it)
Alot of people will recommend you get something like:
http://www.amazon.com/EVGA-Dual-Link-DisplayPort-Graphics-02G-P4-2678-KR/dp/B0083Y6MV6/ref=sr_1_2?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1340855049&sr=1-2&keywords=670
or
http://www.amazon.com/Sapphire-11196-00-40G-Radeon-PCI-Express-Graphics/dp/B0070APVQ6/ref=sr_1_2?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1340855109&sr=1-2&keywords=7950
The reason being that they're part of a newer generation (and, therefore, a better investment for future-proofing). While you're getting what you're paying for with either of those cards, they're probably out of your price range. You'll also have a hard time utilizing their full potential without a motherboard that supports PCIex 16 3.0 lanes (as opposed to your motherboard's PCIe 16 2.1 lane).
Don't get too confused, though; a card is a card. Unless you demand the highest graphics at the best frame rates (and alot of people do, sacrificing an arm and a spouse to get just that), than the 6850 will serve you just fine.
Keep in mind, though, that Nvidia card will support Nvidia's PhysX software, which helps to make extra "stuff" appear on screen (more debris, more smoke, etc.). AMD does not have their own version of this software, which makes certain games 10~20% better. Also, AMD is comparitively bad with their graphics drivers as opposed to Nvidia, who updates their drivers the second a new game comes out (and doesn't stop until it works). In my experience, only one or two games would not even begin to play because of that (Portal 2).
If you'd like to take advantage of Nvidia's PhysX and slight advantage in drivers, then this is an equivalent card to the 6850:
http://www.amazon.com/EVGA-GeForce-Mini-HDMI-Graphics-01G-P3-1556-KR/dp/B004S5CCP4/ref=sr_1_1?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1340855597&sr=1-1&keywords=550ti
I would personally get the 6850, but only because I have more experience with fixing driver-related issues and don't play games (yet) that would take advantage of Nvidia's PhysX software. The 6850 has greater graphics performance (20~30%, at least) but the 550ti will probably leave you with more peace of mind.
But like I said, anything under $200 isn't guaranteed to play games at high frame rates with high settings. I've had Grand Theft Auto IV run at 40fps (30 seconds is considered the "bare minimum" for enjoying any game) on medium settings, 1600X1050 resolution with a 6670, though, and I didn't mind how "bad" it looked (it looked MUCH better than when using integrated graphics).
Unless you have to have 60+ fps on ultra settings (which is okay), either a 550ti or a 6850 will serve you until you can afford either a 7950 or a 670 in a couple of years (when they become the new standard in gaming).
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I would also recommend this CD drive:
http://www.amazon.com/Lite-On-LightScribe-Layer-Drive-IHAS424-98/dp/B002SIMPXM/ref=sr_1_1?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1340856509&sr=1-1&keywords=light+scribe
I'm not sure about the one that you pointed out, but this drive advertises Light-Scribe capabilities. While you may go through your life without using this feature, it's still really nice to know that you can burn labels to light-scribe compatible CD's if you have to. And it's only, like, two dollars more.