Test each card individually and report back, if necessary switch to CCC 12.3 the most stable CCC.
tried each individually both work fine but problem is actually a bit different than i thought. everything i listed at first is still happening but ONLY when crossfire is enabled .
when i enable it the second card (no matter which physical card) shuts off completely and completely glitches out gpu z and ccc, neither fan spins at all (cards have two fans each) and when i disable crossfire it is perfectly normal, full control full readouts all fans spinning normally both cards working normally
EDIT: second card sits at 500/1375 clock speeds (mid) with cf disabled while first is at 300/150 (low)