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I have posted this in another thread as well but I later considered it to be worthy of it's own thread so here it is.

I know I am not impartial to the debate but trying to take two steps back in perspective it seems that the fundamental issue in accepting gay behavior and in accepting gay rights is the issue of choice (of being gay or lesbian or heterophile) vs nature (referring to genetic predisposition). Quite funny actually because usually the liberals go for the choice option, and the conservatives favor the nature option but in this particular case the situation seems reversed.

Let's try to establish some common ground here and get this discussion in a direction where we may learn something about it, instead head bashing only.

I think all will agree on the fact that to follow a certain religion is a fundamental choice issue. Of course the environment (upbringing, eduction, society pressure) has a profound influence on that choice but boiling down to the basics, it is a choice and we all know people who made that choice against environmental pressures. Circumstances may be so bad that there is no choice possible but I am talking here about a religion that you really feel inside you not something that helps you survive the environment.

I think all will agree on the fact that whether you were born male or female (or hemaphrodite) is not a choice at all, it is genetic predisposition. Again the environment may have had its influence on how the genetic predisposition came to be, but clearly the individual that comes into existence had no choice in the matter whatsoever.

Now, can anyone think of a characteristic comparable to the ones above, that is a 50/50 mix between the two? Or does it always boil down to classifying such a characteristic as a choice issue or a natural issue?

Does anyone have <b>evidence</b> that may place homophilia in the choice or natural corner? If so please share it with us.

I carefully selected the word homophilia. Because pending the evidence for the question above, we can then debate what to think of homosexuality.

Let's try not to make this a yelling contest between deaf liberal gay activists and deaf conservative homophobes (and I am sure noone is feeling offended now because we all know we are not one of either, right?). I will do my best to avoid it and I am genuinely interested in all of your opinions on the choice vs nature issue.

The choice vs nature issue is fundamental in the sense that if you believe it is choice, this explains why people are very concerned about others trying to manipulate that choice. If you believe it is nature, then that concern does not exist and thus the worry that homophobic behavior may result in what we have seen in other historic instances of mass xenophobic outbursts becomes dominant.

I repeat, please share your thoughts on the issue with me because I am genuinely interested in especially the evidence that anyone might have for their POV.


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homophilia... :tongue:

It's both. While, obviously, there are naturally gay people, there are also some that do it for...*shrug*. Freddie Mercury is a typical example. Generaly decadent, glamour life-style, where it bacame 'in' to be 'gay'.


IMO, it's not so much the 'homophiles' that are the problem, it's the gay exhibitionism that everyone (I know I am) is fed-up with. All the TV, movie, other media, gay-rights parades etc. is really really annoying.

People with problems are born all the time, there is no need to flaunt them for all the world to see...

We don't have 'nasty six-webbed-fingers indbred bastards with boils' pride parades, and with reason.

P.S. I'm not comapring people from Alabama with gays... :tongue:

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Reply to Snorkius

I really don't have a comment at this point, but I'm curious as to others POV, so I'm going to keep an eye on this thread, and maybe later post mt POV, if the thread doesn't turn into a mudslinging contest, if it does basically I'm fed up with all the argueing, and won't participate, maybe this one can be done civilly and without predujism toward someone else to make a point. Like where they're from(Alabama). :smile:




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We don't have 'nasty six-webbed-fingers indbred bastards with boils' pride parades, and with reason.


You know, I damn glad we don't either ... (lol)

But I think the reason that people from Alabama have a predilection for sucking about anything is that they're constantly watching their hogs do it, so they think, "Hey, I should be able to do that too".


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Reply to Jake_Barnes

My 2 cents..

I have no evidence either way, but I have a hard time believing it would be a choice. Let's assume for a second gays (some or all) would indeed have a choice, and are genetically no different than heterosexuals. Then that means, we (heterosexuals) have that same choice.

Therefore, I would somehow have to be able to fall in love with a guy, get sexually excited by men and get myself to actually have gay sex like gays. I am fairly certain I can not do any of that, no matter how hard I'd try. I am also not aware of any heterosexual man that could do any of that (can anyone here ?). Therefore, it seems at the very least, those gays must have some capabilities I, and I think most/all heterosexuals do no have. Can anyone contradict this ? Any heterosexual feel he can make those choices ?

Secondly, I know enough gays to know 'real' gays (not bisexuals) *can* not fall in love with a woman, can not enjoy sex with them, and can not be physically/sexually attracked to them. Pretty much like I can't with men. So therefore, it seems gays not only have a capability we do not have, they also lack something we take for granted (our ability to love women).

If you put them together, it makes no sense that it would be a matter of choice. There is no logic in it. They can do things we can't (nor would want to) and seem unable to things we find natural. The only way to disprove this, if someone here can show me a purely heterosexual man that claims to be able to love another man, and enjoy sex with him. Which, would be somewhat of a contradiction itselve really.

therefore, I vote: no choice. gays don't have a choice. bisexuals clearly have a choice between man and woman, but they didnt have a choice in being bisexual for the exact same reasons I pointed out above. I'm fairly certain its a genetic/hormonal thing.

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Reply to P4Man

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It's both. While, obviously, there are naturally gay people, there are also some that do it for...*shrug*. Freddie Mercury is a typical example. Generaly decadent, glamour life-style, where it bacame 'in' to be 'gay'.


Freddy Mercury was bi-sexual, not gay.

In parallell to the subject of choice there is the view as Eden put forward that there is a complete spectrum of sexuality with hetero on the one side and homo on the other side with bi in the middle. I think we should not confuse this with the matter of possible choice. (Btw, this spectrum view on sexuality makes perfect sense to me)

If you believe in the natural disposition then a bi-phile had just as little choice as everyone else, that is none. Of course once at a mature sexual age, they have more choice in possible partners, but this is not the kind of choice we are debating here. If you believe in choice of sexual preference then bi-sexuals are easily explained as people that cannot or do not want to make up their mind. Either way it is not relevant for the issue I am targetting in this thread.

I am very careful with my terminology of homophile, heterophile, bi-phile, homosexual, heterosexual, bi-sexual and for good reason which will become clear later or that may be apparent to some of you already.

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IMO, it's not so much the 'homophiles' that are the problem, it's the gay exhibitionism that everyone (I know I am) is fed-up with. All the TV, movie, other media, gay-rights parades etc. is really really annoying.


I'm not a great fan of parades myself (parades of any kind that is) but they do not annoy me really. Again, not relevant for the choice discussion. Do not get me wrong, snorkius, I appreciate you taking the time to read and to respond to this thread but I want to avoid any emotional outbursts between the different camps if they are not related to the thread topic. It is very difficult to get a sensible information flow (both ways) when discussing these issues.

All posts on topic (choice vs natural) will be considered (by me, at least) on the amount of evidence they carry and not the conviction of presentation (again, this holds for all POV's).

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We don't have 'nasty six-webbed-fingers indbred bastards with boils' pride parades, and with reason.


Because there aren't enough of them? :wink:

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P.S. I'm not comapring people from Alabama with gays... :tongue:


Must be hard, typing with them webbed fingers :tongue: :eek:




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A second argument against the choice option: it seems homosexuality has existed throughout history, in all sorts of cultures, religions, regions. wether it be the chirstian middle ages, the old Egyptians, the Romans, Greeks, Chinese, our current western civilization or muslim countries: homosexuality has always existed. some people tend to think this is a new phenomena, but its really not. If homosexuality would be a way to revolt against society, a way to stand out of the crowd, then how come it exists in every imaginable society ? even in nature (I linked an article in the original thread, monkeys have gay sex too).

I think the opposite is true: homosexuality is not a way to revolt against a society, but many homosexuals feel excluded and discriminated by society, and therefore revolt against it (gay parades, Freddy Mercury being who he is, etc).

I think the day society really accepts gays for who they are, there will be no more gay parades, just like you don't see millions of blacks parading on Lincoln Memorial anymore.

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Reply to P4Man

Choice verses nature , yes i do not believe either side will not have conclusive proof . I go to choice , but with a twist . All my beliefs are based on the bible , but i think that some have distorted a lot of that writting . I know that because of the genetic gene pool that some people are born with genes that could be dominate in areas that are not normal ( mankinds thinking of normal ). They say there are genes that can define wheather you could be a alcoholic , criminal , gay , etc.. I do believe that to be correct , but you still have to choose that direction . Does a drinker have to be a alcoholic , no he has to choose to do it , he has the capability to not drink . A gay person can choose not to particepate in that lifestyle . Granted as to personallity it could mess his mind up . So because of that , and biblical principals if he would choose that way i would accept him in love and treat him with all respect . I believe you are gonna explane the nature part to me now ha ha . Hope this cleared it up for you ha ha .

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Reply to ironmike

If we are talking about a spectrum, then the 'true' homo would be natural, the 'true' hetero natural, and everything in between choice...I guess.

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Reply to Snorkius

>I do believe that to be
>correct , but you still have to choose that direction .
>Does a drinker have to be a alcoholic , no he has to choose
>to do it

Correct; but then, being an non alcoholic, (just a social drinker) I know I can drink alcohol (lots of it if required), or I can refrain from it (like when driving) which supports your claim that there is a clear choice here (at least for me). Same goes for being a criminal, I'm sure I could commit crimes if I had to/wanted to. According to some, I already did by posting here :) so again, there is a choice here as well.

But on sexuality, being the heterosexual I am, I do not have this choice. I *can* not fall in love with a man, I could not have sex with a man, no matter the circumstances, no matter how hard I'd try. Could you ? Put a gun to my head, and I still won't be able to do it. I will however, when forced, consume hectoliters of alcohol and rob banks if I had to, regardless of any genetical thing :) See my post above, if we as hetero's don't have that choice, how come gays *would* have it ? Sure seems like at least *something* is different, no ? If its not genetic/hormonal whatever, than what could explain this difference ?

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Reply to P4Man

Nature vs. Choice hmm... I think there is a bit of each in the whole issue. On one hand there may be a natural disposition of certain people with certain genetic structures to be homophiliac. On the other everyone knows that we are able to choose something we want.

Take an elementary school child for example, the big bad bully comes up and eats the lunch that was made by his/her mother/father. It happens that on that day it is the child's favourite lunch and obviously the kid is pissed off. He now has a choice, he wants to go kick the bullies butt, in this case assume that he is capable of taking the bully on, he is just nonviolent usually. So he definately has a predisposition to do this and he is capable of it, yet the child chooses to not do this, he goes against what nature is telling him to do.

I know it is not a perfect analogy, but that is somewhat how I view the homophilia arguement.

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Reply to icy_oblivion

I would appreciate it if you'd read my post above, about "our choice" (as heterosexuals), and tell me if you still think gays have a choice, just like us. i can choose to fight my anger, or let myself go in most situations, and I assume most people can; but I can not choose to become gay. Your argument is the same as IronMike's, and I don't see how it holds if you try and apply it to yourselve, unless you are really different from me.

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Reply to P4Man

No choice in generic gene pool , i agree . Choice comes in after that . I will say some things here i did not intend to say , please bear with me , as i am doing it to try and help Eden . I to have a disorder in the pool of genes , my genes say that i love sex . A lot of sex , multiple times a day , would love to have sex with many women , multiple times a day . Oral sex , 2 gils and me sex , etc. sex . Always been like that , could be unfaithful to my wife many many , times . Would have no problem being kinki with a woman . Yes this is not normal , a lot of guys would say woot what fun , but still not normal . Would not be a growing ground for a strong relationship . Could also be said thats its a controlling part on the man . Its a burden i have had to live with a long time ( as to my age it is less controlling now ). Something in the gene pool or the way i was raised that sets it off . Have i acted on it , no , as i choose not to . It would be controlling , and disrepecting women . Now the choices Eden or others have is a lot more heavier then i have , and if it was gonna be blow there brains out or accept the gay lifestyle , well you can see where i am going . Glad i don't have that kind of burden on me , and as i said whould support which ever way a person would go . I have to , the bible says i do ha ha . I call that the love connection , i am suppost to love others as God loves me . Yes sometimes i don't do to good at it . I think everyone has burdens on them , even you , and have to make choices . I have made other choices also thats no ones bussiness ha ha .
I hope this has cleared up your mind on choices ha ha . ( i know it has'nt ).
As for as alcoholics , criminals , etc . There is genes ( which i am sure you know ) that can say a person has more tendence to go that way , don't mean they have to go that way . Thats what i was meaning there , i sure did not mean that everyone that drinks is a alcoholic ha ha .
So you and Big Mac can show me in the gene pool , where a person could be gay , but i don't think you can show me where they have to be gay , alcoholic , etc.
Remember everything i do in life is based on the Bible , my choice . There is much more about the tongue ( gossip ) in the bible then about homosexuallity , many , many times more . I know you and Big Mac , like to read . Maybe you both should try it once instead of what people tell you it says , make up your own mind what it says . Now that would be an open minded person would'nt it .

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Reply to ironmike

P4 , let me PS something . That does not mean your brother is bad , as i can see why a person would make that choice . I am not condeming him or anyone else , and yes to i love men also . Just not in a sexual way , i am literally crazy about my 2 boys , and son in law , and grandchildren ha ha .

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Reply to ironmike

You have a very interesting take and continue to surprise me with your ability to be so nice and supporting. Your ability to love people and accept their differences is what seperates you from less rational people.

Now as for choice, I will agree on ONE thing you said on gay choice:

A person may have gay genes, but yes, he CAN choose not to be gay, in a sense that, he is repressing it. But deep down, he IS! Like those sham marriages where a gay man denies his real self and marries and ends up unhappy and divorces. You do choose that, right? But it's against you. Hence how it reinforces that being gay is not a choice, but choosing the gay lifestyle could be, if you so much hate yourself or are pressured. Which is what we need to get rid of if we want tolerance and a better society.

Deep down I think you believe more in nature on gay self, than choice, but you believe someone can choose to BE gay out there, like I also think so (thanks for putting that up, I didn't of it before that much). However, it could indeed tear you apart and I will never let others pressure me to be hetero for them.

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> but you believe someone can choose to BE gay out there,
>like I also think so (thanks for putting that up, I didn't
>of it before that much).

I still have to meet the first heterosexual person that could choose to be gay. I don't believe it. There is no way any pressure, desire, whatever could make me want to have sex with a man, let alone I would be able to do it; not with a gun on my forehead, not with a gun on the forehead of my GF. I *can* not choose to be gay, and I'm still waiting for someone who considers himself hetero to claim he could.

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Reply to P4Man

Mike, regarding the bible; I have read a good part of it (not entirely though). It is indeed a great read, as is the Koran btw. I just don't believe it should be taken literally, but that is just my believe. For me its a book written by men, not God, and its written based on stories told from father to son for several generations after the facts would have occured. There is bound to be inacuracies, and mistranslations, as well as ferry tales, so I prefer taking the moral, but not living it to the letter. But like I said, thats just how I see it.

Back to the topic now; Mike, regardless of any religious considerations, could you imagine being in love with a man, kissing him, and making love to him under *any* circumstances ? Assume the bible did not mention anything about it, and would allow it. Do you think you could ever do that ? Just a yes or no question.

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Now my take will be long and philosophical, it may even be fatalist to some. Bear in mind above all this, however, that there were some times where I did beleive there are SOME possibilities you could turn out gay because of something in your past. Not by choice however, but by a childhood moment triggering a neurotic change, as Freud would say.

First of all, I'd like people to believe some of what the Matrix Reloaded philosophy talked about, because it passed ignored and even bashed on, while it talks exactly on what human philosophy has always wondered about: Are we determined or do we form our own fate?

Here is my take on choice. My view is choice is an illusion. I don't however discredit the idea it's inexistant. I do feel though it is very rare we ever choose. Here is a good explanation why I believe so, and how B.F Skinner takes on it.

As some of you know by now, I went through a psychological breakdown this winter. I went through two episodes, one short, and one brutal longer one. The second one involved me thinking I discovered what life is made of: Cause and effect -> inevitable doom or fate.
I was so destroyed inside, it's like if you lived all your life thinking your mom was your real mom, and after 50 years, of love and closeness, she tells you she isn't. You can't do a damn thing about this situation, you cannot change it, you are doomed to accept it and even live it. Being stuck this way, but even worse for me.
When I would go try to get my mind off the ideas, by writing a story book, I would feel like crying. In the end I did burst out in pain and cried. I refused to understand life was controlled, we are controlled, we are slaves, we have a fate and no one can change it, choices don't exist, etc. I just couldn't accept it. (even if I died and went to another world, I wouldn't escape that method of function : cause and effect, the basis of functioning)
I'm a guy who hates constraints, who hates to feel like someone is trapping him under his control. And this belief made me so tormented that I was almost psychotic.

Of course the reason for all this existential thinking was of a sexual past problem which triggered such obsessions. This is Freud's take, again, and it was true, since once me and my shrink discovered the real source, my obsessions suddenly went down and nearly dissapeared. Of course, he also showed me that it's not entirely true, that we're doomed.

But here is my take nonetheless.
Choices are an illusion because:
Cause-->effect. Read up on Chaos Theory if you'd like more info. The Buttefly Effect movie or theory example is excellent for that.
Anyways, since everthing has a cause and an effect, and the effect becomes a cause, you are inevitably creating a chain, right? From the beginning of mankind, you can say a small ant walking one direction, formed today's society. Through a series of causes and effects and logical happenings, it worked.
Here's a more modern take: I poke you. You think it has no effect, but your body felt something. Whatever you had in your mind during that poke is interrupted. Therefore the path you had planned, is changed, altered by a simple poke. You then look at me. Perhaps you ask me why I did it. But then you ignore it. We continue, hours later. You do realize though, if I didn't poke you, things would've different, right? Maybe you were to share an idea or thought. Maybe you were to go THEN to the bathroom then after what I did. If it were after, you would have also walked differently to the bathroom, due to the displacement I did by poking you. Tons of variables, molecules get involved in causality. And everything affects everything.

So what does this involve with choice?
Well, consider this: We are born with biological implants, configurations. And society affects us. Pavlov's example has proven how you can effectively show someone something to do in reaction to something, and through constant repetition make him adopt the mindset that when this happens, do this.
So, we are both determined by our biological things and our environment, if we believed in this mindset.

So, if we think we choose in life our careers, that is false. We don't. It was predetermined in us, in our DNA what we are more likely to like. Take how our tongue may like a certain food but someone else may not. Opinions, are they not based on who we are and how we feel?
If that is the case, a choice isn't made. It was, as in Reloaded they say, already made for us. We just have to understand it.
If you think I have a choice between for example being sent to Iraq or stay with my family, but know I am being forced, yet I choose to stay, I will tell you that wasn't a choice. It was a logical decision relative to YOUR mindset, YOUR configuration, YOUR bias. What is most likely to be YOUR bias, is your choice. Is it still a choice? No, it's a decision logically taken based on who you are.

Even when you choose not to choose, you didn't make a choice, you simple inside felt uncomfortable choosing and therefore went with what YOU feel is right, logical.

Since everything has a reason, even a robber who we think may have randomly chosen a house to rob, did it not by choice or randomness, but by causality. He didn't choose a house eventually, because it was a random pick. He did it based on environmental effects (even his walk, the way he arrived there, the weather, anything can affect his view), and perhaps even the house's position, value, etc.

I think we may have very hard decisions to make sometimes, but I do not belive we made choices out of them. Inevitably, something must have stood out of the rest of the options we had, thus, we didn't choose it, we went with it, it was already chosen for us. It was a bias. A choice, by clear definition to me, should be something where we choose impartially. Ever chosen impartially? I think a kid may have, but as mature adults, we don't choose, we make conscious decisions or logical decisions as I call them.

A gay who represses his true nature, is not choosing to repress it, he decided it due to social pressure, a bias behind it. To say he chose it means it was almost an instinct, he could care less if he was to go gay living or repress it.

Thus, I end with what BF Skinner believes, that with causality, we all have a fate somewhere, are not really free. But I believe we are and disagree with some of what he says. I do however now believe more in him than Sartre who believes we choose and are free.
If we were free, nothing society does on us would affect us. But we are all affected by culture and society. Research also shows how a person's behavior is different in different environments. Our creativity stems from a previous reason too. But I personally think there exists creativity with no previous agenda of thoughts or inspiration. Picasso comes to mind.
Skinner also dimisses consciousness as tool of choice and freedom's existance, claiming anything will be needed to trigger consciousness, such as questions like : What are you doing? What did you do? How are you? What do you think of this act? Thus to him, consciousness is also an illusion. Skinner dismisses most tools of freedom and choice anyways.

If Randomness does exist though, in even the most remote molecular reactions, then I would change my view. Until then, to me, choices are an illusion people live with to feel free and comfortable. The choices were already made, now they have to understand them. We are born with certain properties that define who we are and will be, and education and the rest will modify us too. However, THAT scenario will be the set of the future where you will think you make choices but are actually basing it on past bias. Thus the choice was not true, it was not impartial. I could choose right now to opt out of my college program for no reason, just to show you I am not controlled by interests, but then again, cause and effect made me do this supposed choice, thus, it was the fact I wanted to prove you something that caused me to decide to opt out of the program. Hence even there, there was no choice. I know some of you will believe me, I just know you know I have a point somewhere on all this. Phukface was eventually convinced, although did not take this lightly on himself. It's a hard reality at first.

Ok I end this here.

This is a very pessimist view, one many may flame me for it, but I believe it more than anything as it is logical.
DO I think humans aren't free? No. I refuse to think so. I do think I am free to form my life and enjoy it. But I don't think most of my choices are true. I think I was made to "choose" one thing over the other, hence it wasn't a choice, it was logical decision on my part or based on my DNA construction.

This is the deterministic view of course, and often fatalist one, but since I do believe in rare occasions of choice and randomness' existance, as well as feeling of freedom, I am not entirely for that positin. However, going through my mental breakdown has shown me how true most of it is, after everyday obsessively dissecting every action out there. I could tell you a flower's color, position in a room will affect your life. And there can be proof too!
But it is obsessive. Eventually I also decided to go ahead of my class in philosophy and read on BF Skinner's chapter on Behaviorism and Determinism. And I didn't feel bothered, amazingly. I felt less damaged from his sayings. I disagreed with him and felt like I had a point.

So if we talked on the gay issue, well, I don't believe one bit gays choose to be gay. It's either integrated into their genes, following of course the many extremely good arguments by P4Man (again no one has explained to me why I can't get excited by a naked chick but can with a man, naturally), or their formation as kids caused it. By which in that case, you also choose to believe in determinism, and saying it's wrong is absolutely absurd, because it's causality which brought it upon him, not him "choosing".
So he did not form himself, it's his surrounding and his biological implants which formed him. That would be a bit of a weak argument alas, since homosexuality existed since the beginning of time, so you'd wonder who out there one each era is influencing the kid to be this way.

Vic

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NO NO, I was not referencing "person" there as a hetero, but as a gay person who could suddenly choose that he doesn't want to be gay outside, as in, supress his feelings.

I am totally with you on the heterosexual argument.

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>I am totally with you on the heterosexual argument.

How would you know ?
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Answer = yes. Why , because certin people raised up in a dominate household , or other type of situation feel the need to be controlled . Have you ever seen a woman , that her husband or boyfriend beat her up and she comes back again and again for more . Same with a man , but maybe other types of abuse . They say they are staying there for love , that is completelly out of the question . They want to be controlled . Now put that with people of the same sex . Yes i have seen it a lot . I have known perfectlly straight men that do gay sex . Not because they enjoy it . One specific example was a gentelman who had been in prison , he learned to do things to survive and carried it on after he got out . Have seen many an example , of rebellion in young people where they do things they think will enrage there familly . Soooo answer is YES

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No one said you can't do gay acts when hetero, however do these people stay that way forever?
The question is that. Will they keep such habits, and actually TURN gay forever? Are their feelings authentic?

Those are nonetheless interesting examples you bring. Not the most evident or frequent ones and definitely not representative of gays, but still interesting.

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How would I know?
Trick question I suppose?

LOL, I'll not answer then! :wink:

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im guessing you finally read up a little on the chaos theory, as i suggested?

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BTW Ryan, I think my big post will interest you, as you wanted different views and takes on it. This is probably the most deep one you'll see yet. You may relate, having seen Reloaded and liked it.

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Wow , did you see the one post where i said i was not a real educated guy , apparentlly not ha ha . Ok i am not sure that i completelly understand what you said , know i did not know the people you referred to ( you name dropper you )----well i will do the best i can , ok . From what i understand of what you said i would totally disagree with you ,( biblically or secularelly ). -------------------------------->>>> ( sorry its the only way i knoe how to do this )
If you think I have a choice between for example being sent to Iraq or stay with my family, but know I am being forced, yet I choose to stay, I will tell you that wasn't a choice. It was a logical decision relative to YOUR mindset, YOUR configuration, YOUR bias. What is most likely to be YOUR bias, is your choice. Is it still a choice? No, it's a decision logically taken based on who you are.------------------------------------------------------------>>>>>
not sure what you are saying , but eighther way you would have a definate choice . Now your choice could cost you a lot but you was not predestined to do either one . If so everyone should sit back and relaxe cause its gonna happen anyway ha ha . I have been on my own since i was 14 years old , it was'nt thrown on me i choose it. I could have went other ways ( sometimes i wonder how things would have turned out ) , but i did not . I choose a way and yes sometimes it was very hard ( physically and mentally ) . Then i proseeded to make it work .
Thats what i was saying about you , which ever choice ( road you take )there is gonna be ruts and bumps in the road . Look at both ways 1= don't surpress , but live a straight lifestyle , never marry , etc.
2= Gay lifestyle , people will eat you up in community , friends , workplace . It will happen .----where not talking about weather its fair or not . Remember , life is not as they portray it on tv or in movies , life is real . I know this for a fact .


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Reply to ironmike

I didn't actually, I read a bit what you once linked me over to. I do understand it a bit. Not that much, but do know its example of the butterfly all too well.

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I know you wouldn't understand, neither most here. It's a hard theory to see and understand. You would have to sit for hours, observing behavior around you to understand causality and how choices are made.

You can choose to believe you made a choice. I don't know what pushed you to do X choice, but I think there was a background to it.

To put it in perspective, a real choice would drive you NUTS. Your mind would blow up. Think of 50-50. Which side do you take if both are equal? If none had ANY compelling argument over the other, which do you take? Hmm?

As for sitting back and relaxing, lol, well, like I said, we are free to live, however we think we're making choices while in fact they were done for us, because they were biased choices (based on emotions, background, surrounding, facts, etc.).
If you sat back and relaxed, you'd still be letting any causality run you, no matter what. You're still run by that system. Ya know what I mean? You can't escape cause and effect, because even when you escape, you are reacting to an action, to a cause.

I guess the biggest choice we ever would do, is to choose life over suicide, for example.


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I guess the biggest choice we ever would do, is to choose life over suicide, for example.



interesting thought, i guess it goes along with,

real power is the ability to do something and not do it.

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Um I don't quite get you there man.

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I believe its choice, but I also believe(And I Purposely Chose the Word Believe), that our lives have been affected from birth by choices, but not necessarily all made by us, the choices our parents made in our upbringing, right or wrong have influenced the choices we make today.

Traditions of men have affected us far beyond just being able to rationalize a lifes situation or lifestyle, man tends to find ways to justify the things he does, so he can be more comfortable in the choices he’s made, and if he can claim he literally has no choice in his behavior, he achieves the sympathy from others that allow him to wear the label (Its OK).

I remember when I first chose to lie, I made a concious decision to lie, because in my heart I thought it was OK to lie, I mean from a child I was enchanted into the traditional lies, and I was told by my parents about Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, parents lying to their children from birth, because their parents lied to them, and their parents before them, and so on, never questioning in themselves.

Why are we doing this?

So its almost like we’re little computer programs running around spouting out all that’s been inputed into us.

So I tell my first lie, expecting praise from my parents, I’d learned from the best, they’d spent years training me and I was going to be good at it, but much to my surprise there was no cheering, no At a boys, no special celebration, I’d done it, I’d arrived, I’d told my first lie, and then my father proceeded to beat the Hell out of me.

I had a problem trying to figure the logic there, OK!, its alright for them to lie to me, but its not alright for me to lie to them, That doesn’t make sense.

So your entire life has been affected by choices, some you’ve made some others made for you, but choices none the less.

Now I believe some of the choices we’ve made have either kept us under, or taken us out from under, the protective umbrella God our creator has provided for us, thus making it easier to pursue the lifestyle we’ve chosen, because the concience we all have, that instintively tells us in our hearts, this is right, and this is wrong, has basically been switched off.

From a child we’ve been presented truth and lie mixed together, no wonder its so hard for some to accept Jesus Christ, I mean he was blended in with all the rest of the lies, so why should we believe anything about him at all, He was just another lie right along with all the others Right!, Wrong!!! That part wasn’t a lie.

You have to give the devil his due here, he’s a master manipulator of lies, and the father of lies. He’s woven a masterful web of truth and lies mixed together, and that’s what we live in today, and we’ve been making choices ever since, some right and some wrong.

Well some here have tiptoed around what the Bible has to say about a homosexual lifestyle, saying the Bible was just written by men, not God. The Bible was written by men, inspired by the Holy Spirit, and directed to write the most powerful book, or should I say Library of Books bound together and called the Bible. So if you really want to know how God views homosexuality, and how choices got you to this point keep reading.

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The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of men who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God's invisible qualities--his eternal power and divine nature--have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.
For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.
Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator--who is forever praised. Amen.
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, he gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they are senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Although they know God's righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

Romans Chapter 1 vs 18-32 NIV



If you’re still reading you’re either ready to shout and clap, or inflamed with rage against me for posting this, or feel like you’ve been punched in the stomach, but I’m going to leave you with this, Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life, and no one is going to get to heaven except through him, and that is the truth whether you like it or not, all you have to do, to receive Jesus into your heart, is believe he went to the cross for your sins, and pray and ask Him to forgive you for your sins and to come into your heart, and if you are for real, he will be to you. I’m not talking religion here, it was basically the religious machine that was behind the plot to crucify Jesus in the first place, I’m talking Truth. He said you will know the truth and the truth will set you free, He is the truth, and He can set you free, and if He sets you free, you will be free.

Free to make the Right Choices!!!


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Thank you for having enough courage to post that, You are truly convicted in this my friend.

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If you’re still reading you’re either ready to shout and clap, or inflamed with rage against me for posting this, or feel like you’ve been punched in the stomach, ...


I've read your complete post and felt none of the emotions you describe. I am trying to find the relevance for the choice vs nature discussion.

Does the quote from the Bible (Romans) apply to gay people as they exist today in your opinion? If I do that, then my interpretation of the quote is that people are gay because they're godless and wicked against better judgement because they are aware or should be aware of God's greatness? And because they do not glorify Him or gave thanks to Him, he made them gay?

This is by no means an attempt at mockery, I am trying to gain true understanding of what you mean to express. I must be interpreting it wrong because by the above reasoning I wonder why I am not gay. As stated before elsewhere I am agnostic (which is quite something else than being an atheist) so I have not given thanks either to God mentioned in this particular quote.


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In reponse to your loooooooooooooooooooooooooooong post (I thought I posted long ones but you are a true UberMeisterLongPoster), Eden.

You are bringing a lot of science into this so I would like to point out a few things, having been a scientist myself.

First of all, Chaos Theory cannot be used to prove the inevitability of cause and effect. Chaos Theory is about the stability of systems. In a true chaotic system a very small cause may have huge effects, like the air displacement of a butterfly causing a hurricane elsewhere on earth. It is a popular example to illustrate that our weather system is a chaotic system, which is why weather prediction can be hard at times, even with the advanced weather models we have today.

On to Cause and Effect. Basically you say that the universe was determined at the moment of conception (the big bang, if you are convinced by the scientific evidence we currently have). This deterministic belief is very close to a notion of God creating the universe, and that we are all his tools as part of the creation.

Since the beginning of the last century though, we are no longer living in a Newtonian (deterministic) universe. Around that time the theory of Quantum Mechanics has been developed which is not a deterministic model, but is based on probability properties of particles/waves. I guess it goes into too much detail to explain it all here (in as far as I understand it myself because I'm not an expert on the matter) but I will mention a highlight:
In this theory you cannot measure both the speed of a particle and its location to the fullest extend. If you measure its speed exactly, then there will be maximum uncertainty about its position in space, and vice versa. particles (all matter and energy) are described in the form of wave functions. Observing/measuring aspects of these wavefunctions, changes them. Now if you look at a sufficiently large scale, a quantum mechanical universe behaves like a newtonian universe, but if you look closely enough or if conditions become extreme enough (black holes for instance) then you see deviations occur that are explained by the laws of quantum mechanics. Undoubtedly in the future a new theory will be found that may explain flawed observations with regard to QM.

Now what it means is that probability/chance is brought (back) into the equation, opening up the possibility of choice (which may be just a macro concept of how we are handling the concepts of wavefunction probabilities). Einstein btw (there he is again) did not like this concept one bit. "God does not play dice", he is quoted to have said. We may wind up with a deterministic theory again in the future but as of today, I take comfort from this theory in the sense that I believe there is free choice for people (as I said before, I am an optimist).

However our choices are limited and we are still very much a biological product of evolution with lots of physical limitations.



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I respectfully disagree.

>Now put that with people of the same sex . Yes i have seen
>it a lot . I have known perfectlly straight men that do gay
>sex .

Now why do you think these men where 'perfectly straight' ? What is your definition of perfectly straight ? Mine is: someone unable to fall in love with a man, and have satisfying sex with him, while being able to fall in love with, and enjoy sex with a woman. By this definition, your example is not a 100% straight gay, and it rather seems an illustration of Eden's claim their is a whole range of sexualities going from purely gay to purely heterosexual, and anything in between. This man, might have been mostly heterosexual, but if he managed to have sex with a man, I really don't think he could have without at least some homosexual tendencies. The fact he kept doing it after he got out, I guess pretty much proves this. He probably just discovered this homosexual component within himselve during his prison time.

Now, maybe we all have these, but I have not discovered them within myself yet, since adolescence, I have never been able to get an erection by a man, nor do I think I could. Definately not by just choosing so, just to piss off society or my parents. Are you really claiming you could ?

>Have seen many an example , of rebellion in young people
>where they do things they think will enrage there familly

I think you got this backwards. Those people are first gay, discover it, feel weird/scared/ashamed about it. And then, they revolt, because they know their sexuality is not accepted by his family/surroundings. Yes, many gays tend to be "rebels", but its not their rebellion that made them gay, its the oposite; the fact they are different (sexual), and not accepted makes them revolt against society, family, friends that discriminate them. Seriously, I could perhaps imagine being a rebel trying to shock my parents or society myselve, but why on earth would I disallow myselve to enjoy having sex with a woman because of that ? That makes no sense. Not to mention I could not ever have sex with a man. Also, don't forget gays *fall in love* with men. You can pretend a whole lot of things, and choose to do or not do certain things, but you know well enough you can not choose wether or not to fall in love; It just happens, period. You can try and avoid falling in love by choosing not to see someone, but that is about the only thing I can do about it.

Gays don't fall in love with woman though, they fall in love with men. What choice does that mean they have ?

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Now why do you think these men where 'perfectly straight' ? What is your definition of perfectly straight ? Mine is: someone unable to fall in love with a man, and have satisfying sex with him, while being able to fall in love with, and enjoy sex with a woman. By this definition, your example is not a 100% straight gay, and it rather seems an illustration of Eden's claim their is a whole range of sexualities going from purely gay to purely heterosexual, and anything in between. This man, might have been mostly heterosexual, but if he managed to have sex with a man, I really don't think he could have without at least some homosexual tendencies. The fact he kept doing it after he got out, I guess pretty much proves this. He probably just discovered this homosexual component within himselve during his prison time.



No , he was straight in your defineition . He ( as there are man others ) was not doing it for sexual pleasure , but for survival . He learned through this procedure that it was please people ( male or female ) to be subservent to them . He was being dominated . P4 , i think you are a well educated man and brought up in a loveing home . I was not , i grew up in the projects where you see a lot of things that don't happen in other areas . The main thing is control. He / she who have it seems to be a step higher on the food chain ( for lack of better wording ). That has nothing to do with sexuall gratification . A person can litterally control another person , and the person thats being controled will do anything he or she is told to do , not because of pleasure or love .Although that will be there excuss ( have to come up with something )


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Now, maybe we all have these, but I have not discovered them within myself yet, since adolescence, I have never been able to get an erection by a man, nor do I think I could. Definately not by just choosing so, just to piss off society or my parents. Are you really claiming you could ?


If you are controlled you do not have to have an erection , you being the source of pleasure . On the lighter side , my wifes true father has been wed many , many times . Its always to a younger woman ( he is very dominering ) this last one is about 8 years younger then my wife . She is not an attractive woman . She actually turns my stomach when i see her ha ha . If i had to a choice , i am not sure i would choose her over a man ha ha . Fortunatlly i won't have to make that choice . She is soooooo bad . I also was going to work in a plant one time and had to go through safety indocturnation . When we went outside i said to the fellow sitting next to me that the guy on the other side ofthe table was the ugliest guy i have ever seen . Yep his name was Jessica a woman ( not lesbian )ha ha ha . Fortunatlly we done't have to make them choices as i am sure your wife is lovely as mine is .



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Gays don't fall in love with woman though, they fall in love with men. What choice does that mean they have ?


That was not the question , that as i said i can understand , and yes i think you still have a choice . Yes as i have said the choice could be very hard on you . Read above posts . You know P4 i don't like to argue , i was asked my opinion and stated such . You yourself said ( i think ) that it could not be proved either way . It seems to me that you are on a mission to have everyone say ---O P4 you are sooooo smart and we all bow down and pay are just respects to you . Don't think that will happen , maybe you better just get over it huuu . I can see in the other posts where they thought you where being agressive toward there opinions , seems like you want to doninate people . Don't know about the others but it won't happen with me ha ha . No i won't call you names and go away like the others . Will be here untill the end . As i said i was raised in the projects and did not end up subservent , matter of fact , i gotta watch my self cause as i stated i could be controling. Right now i am heading for Mississippi but will be back thursday . Unfortuneatlly i will be going back to work but will be home in the evenings .


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>You know P4 i don't like to argue , i was asked my opinion
>and stated such

Okay, point taken. No secrets here, I do like to argue; I like to think of myself as a rational being, and most of my idea's and POV's are created by confronting my own idea's with others'. Definately not to have someone say I'm so smart, cause I am not, and I don't care, but some people claim their opinion is based on facts and reason, and I tend to think mine is as well, so when those 2 ideas are still 100% opposite of each other, I do want to confront those reasonings. But if you don't want to, no problem.

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In reponse to your loooooooooooooooooooooooooooong post (I thought I posted long ones but you are a true UberMeisterLongPoster), Eden.


Haha, I did a PM to Scam yesterday where the response was: WOAH, that was a whole lot of letters!

I do write when I want.

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First of all, Chaos Theory cannot be used to prove the inevitability of cause and effect. Chaos Theory is about the stability of systems. In a true chaotic system a very small cause may have huge effects, like the air displacement of a butterfly causing a hurricane elsewhere on earth. It is a popular example to illustrate that our weather system is a chaotic system, which is why weather prediction can be hard at times, even with the advanced weather models we have today.


You are correct though, however as I read in the dictionary, it is the way to show how each state is caused from a previous one and how calculation (precise to the end) can predict the future states.

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On to Cause and Effect. Basically you say that the universe was determined at the moment of conception (the big bang, if you are convinced by the scientific evidence we currently have). This deterministic belief is very close to a notion of God creating the universe, and that we are all his tools as part of the creation


I could be saying that though I'd rather not think that way anymore since that was how I felt when I was mentally ill, and boy did that hurt. :wink:

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Around that time the theory of Quantum Mechanics has been developed which is not a deterministic model, but is based on probability properties of particles/waves. I guess it goes into too much detail to explain it all here (in as far as I understand it myself because I'm not an expert on the matter) but I will mention a highlight:
In this theory you cannot measure both the speed of a particle and its location to the fullest extend. If you measure its speed exactly, then there will be maximum uncertainty about its position in space, and vice versa. particles (all matter and energy) are described in the form of wave functions. Observing/measuring aspects of these wavefunctions, changes them. Now if you look at a sufficiently large scale, a quantum mechanical universe behaves like a newtonian universe, but if you look closely enough or if conditions become extreme enough (black holes for instance) then you see deviations occur that are explained by the laws of quantum mechanics. Undoubtedly in the future a new theory will be found that may explain flawed observations with regard to QM.


The strange thing is that Flamethrower, let aside all the BS and lies he spews, supposedly works in quantum calculations and has also found how a molecule can only react the way it was to.
On that reasoning, a god-like person who could calculate EVERY single molecule out there, COULD theoretically determine the next movement, the next action to happen in this world. Luckily we don't seem to have such people. But look at a hockey game for example. Since the first move, if you had that god knowledge, you could predict the outcome. Puck goes right, one player reacts, other goes ready for defense, people look at the player, crowd shouts, player hears shouts, minor deconcentration, etc.
All of it plays a role and in the end, as history writes itself, you can also say it was written. In short, life is both predictable and unpredictable. An antithesis with a thesis as Marx once said, combined together create a higher force, a stability. Since cause and effect are the major opposing forces, come together they create stability. So the same applies to life, it is both predictable and not.

But I digress.

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Now what it means is that probability/chance is brought (back) into the equation, opening up the possibility of choice


I kind of don't see how it does.

I don't believe in "free" choice. I believe in a made choice. Yes we are free to choose, no one said no, but the inevitable choices we make are based solely on our bias. Bias meaning, our DNA, environment, pressure, stress, weather, feelings, emotions, etc. the factors limitless) Hence choice is not very existant. Like I proposed, I could suddenly "choose freely" to opt out of my program in college, just to show you how free I am. But how free was that? I still reacted to the cause: Wanting to prove something!
Reacting to the cause simply can't mean we were free to choose, because there WAS an ulterior motive, there always was, thus we never chose it randomly. A true choice IMO is one randomly picked, because there was nothing more compelling over the other. A true choice is with no bias. I remember the math exams with the multiple choice questions. Now whether sometimes when I just have no clue which to choose means there is a choice is true or not, is questionable. Since I believe in Skinnerian take, I would then tell you you reacted and chose on some variables around you. Pressure maybe. If it was random, beleive you me, then that was a choice. But a choice in real life aside exams or whatever, all an illusion, period.

People will always be surprised by what I am saying and not grasp it or disagree first, like ironmike, and I cannot blame them one bit. It is hard to adopt this view and understand it. You would have to analyse situations all the time, create yourself situations where choice is involved, for you to see "why you chose this over that", to see that it was already a determined choice for you. Otherwise why did you not choose the other? If there is one path, there is no choice!
Phukface argued with me over PM for a good while trying to help me get out of my fatalist moments during winter, but eventually, I triumphed, SADLY. He admitted I was right. In fact, my shrink agreed. My philosophy teacher agreed (and I should say he has more knowledge in that matter than most IMO). Most who are englightened on the issue will agree, choice is an illusion. We rarely choose without a bias.

But like you, I am an optimist. Why? Because even if life is determined, I could never know mine. I will never know if I will be shot at and killed. If I knew my life, might as well go jump off a bridge, since it'll be boring to know what's next no?
Since I don't know it, I now believe in what my shrink made me opt to believe in : the unpredictable. Bank on that in life. The fact is, you will never know what will happen in 3 years. For me it's a huge argument. I don't know where I will head in my career, I don't know if I will discover any love until then, know my sexuality, etc. But the fact is, the unpredictable brings surprises. Whether they are good or bad, you discover this is what is exciting about life. To experience it all, the emotions, the feelings. Thus, if life is truly determined, I don't care anymore, even if I had bad stuff happen, I also had sudden unpredicted surprises (unpredicted in MY position, my POV, but predicted in the Causality system) that were pretty cool. So I decided to feel happy no matter what. Do you see now that I am not trying to be pessimist? But I do wish people could believe in this. I think it is what is logical and the truth. Ryan believes his truth, I have mine. He quoted his truth, I brought mine here also claiming I know what is true.

He quoted, so I will quote the lovely piece of the Merovingian speech where Morpheus says that choice is what begins it all:

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Morpheus: We are looking for the Keymaker.
Merovingian: Oh yes, it is true. The Keymaker, of course. But this is not a reason, this is not a `why.' The Keymaker himself, his very nature, is means, it is not an end, and so, to look for him is to be looking for a means to do... what?
Neo: You know the answer to that question.
Merovingian: But do you? You think you do but you do not. You are here because you were sent here, you were told to come here and you obeyed. [Laughs] It is, of course, the way of all things. You see, there is only one constant, one universal, it is the only real truth: causality. Action. Reaction. Cause and effect.
Morpheus: Everything begins with choice.
Merovingian: <b>No. Wrong. Choice is an illusion, created between those with power, and those without.</b> Look there, at that woman. My God, just look at her. Affecting everyone around her, so obvious, so bourgeois, so boring. But wait... Watch - you see, I have sent her dessert, a very special dessert. I wrote it myself. It starts so simply, each line of the program creating a new effect, just like poetry. First, a rush... heat... her heart flutters. You can see it, Neo, yes? She does not understand why - is it the wine? No. What is it then, what is the reason? And soon it does not matter, soon the why and the reason are gone, and all that matters is the feeling itself. <b>This is the nature of the universe. We struggle against it, we fight to deny it, but it is of course pretense, it is a lie. Beneath our poised appearance, the truth is we are completely out of control. Causality. There is no escape from it, we are forever slaves to it. Our only hope, our only peace is to understand it, to understand the `why.' </b>`Why' is what separates us from them, you from me. `Why' is the only real social power, without it you are powerless. And this is how you come to me, without `why,' without power. Another link in the chain. But fear not, since I have seen how good you are at following orders, I will tell you what to do next. Run back, and give the fortune teller this message: Her time is almost up. Now I have some real business to do, I will say adieu and goodbye.


Another thing: Skinner is a behaviorist. The light side of determinism to him, is that he believes since man is formed socially and biologically, inevitably of course, that doesn't mean he is "made", but "makable". His behaviorism is applied in many fields, like education and psychotherapy. This is actually a seriously good thing. Being able to create the man we want, especially in education and psychotherapy, using behavioristic studies, we can effectively heal and educate people, and hence even destroy possibly murderers and people who want to bully. But it would take some serious mind controlling.


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Whoa. Lots of information to process in all of the above posts, but I had to comment on this particular one first. I will try to get to the other ones tonight.

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Jesus Christ is the way, the truth and the life, and no one is going to get to heaven except through him, and that is the truth whether you like it or not, all you have to do, to receive Jesus into your heart, is believe he went to the cross for your sins, and pray and ask Him to forgive you for your sins and to come into your heart, and if you are for real, he will be to you. I’m not talking religion here, it was basically the religious machine that was behind the plot to crucify Jesus in the first place, I’m talking Truth. He said you will know the truth and the truth will set you free, He is the truth, and He can set you free, and if He sets you free, you will be free.


So your opinion of the past is the only true one. If you were to believe that the holocaust (sp?) didn't happen, then would we all have to believe that too? I don't care what anyone says, but there is no proof that Jesus WAS the son of God. Storys passed from mouth to mouth then interpreted by the church and put to ink don't hold a lot of water in my book.

I will never criticize one for religious beliefs. I will criticize for pushing those beliefs onto others. I personally need proof to believe something. I don't take literature as proof. You could compare the Bible to the internet. Look hard enough into the Bible, and you will find something to support your argument. I liken it to going into a Dodge dealership and asking "I need a full size pickup. Should I buy Ford, Chevy, or Dodge?". If you go into a Christian church and ask how to get into heaven, they will tell you "Believe in Christ and give us money every week!" Other religions will give you different answers, except for the money part. :lol:

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Well some here have tiptoed around what the Bible has to say about a homosexual lifestyle, saying the Bible was just written by men, not God. The Bible was written by men, inspired by the Holy Spirit, and directed to write the most powerful book, or should I say Library of Books bound together and called the Bible.


And I am guessing that you got this from the Bible, or from Church or something... So that means that when ever someone says that God is talking to them, it is true? Well guess what? God just told me to tell you to STFU! :lol:

I will admit that I haven't read the Bible yet. I would like to, but I haven't had that urge until the last year or two. The only problem is that when I have a religious conversation with my wife or friends, I come away hating religion even more... ANYWAY, all of the words above are my opinion and should be read as such. I am not laying down the law, I am calling it the way I see it, and if we all saw things the same way, I wouldn't need these damn glasses.



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I totally agree with you there. I think Ryan went one step too far and did the biggest mistake of what could usually cause wars, (thought his post was not THAT forcing) forcing down the religeous beliefs you have on others. A little "IMO" RC-style at the end of all of his post could've gone a long way. :lol:

Finally, as to you, whore, when will we see pics of you on the album, HUH?

Here, jack off to me here <A HREF="http://www.geocities.com/edenx10/vic.html" target="_new">http://www.geocities.com/edenx10/vic.html</A>. The last one was taken yesterday, with me peeking an eye on YOU, my lovely Jefypoo. Because you're special and sweet! :wink:

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I would like to share with you all another poem (actually a lyric for a potential song if it may happen) from me, one I did during those psychotic days, it's all about causality and the feeling of being trapped as a slave forever:

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<b>The Pawn</b>

I’m a victim Of time

I see choice
Yet I am trapped
The line of time has caught me
And the lines are tapped

I’m watched, I’m looked at
Whatever I do, there’s no changing that
Because when I think of going on
I realize I’m still a pawn

....Time....

- You are intelligent, you have such a mind
- Realize you have so many friends

Oh but it was all made to be
I am merely following destiny
So is that the answer to fate’s existence?
That there is no resistance?

I’m watched, I’m looked at
Whatever I do, there’s no changing that
Because when I think of going on
I realize I’m still a pawn

So now what do I do, where do I go
How do I live
If every movement I do, is planned to drift
To a planned world where my control is my fate
And if I don’t get the proof
Then I won’t find the truth

I’m watched, I’m looked at
Whatever I do, there’s no changing that
Because when I think of going on
I realize I’m still a pawn

Victor J. Khalaf




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Oh btw Snorkius, while I also don't like the gay pride parade (surprise!), you shouldn't generalize and centralize your annoyance on this one flaunting. Ya know, the riches do that, the people with higher grades do that, Flamey does that. I think we're generalizing far too much on how much gays are heard in public. FAR too much. I dare you to show me more than 3-4 TV shows out there that have gay content. One I can tell you from now is Will and Grace.

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this is an interesting side topic here; thought I'd just give you my 2 cents. At one point, after having had a few too many physics classes, I thought exactly like you: everything is predetermined, if you could have infinite knowledge you could predict the future exactly.

Thing is, its not true :) First time I started doubting was when I figured this: imagine you have this infinately fast computer, that contains *all* knowledge in the universe. This computer should be able to "calculate" the future according to you, right ? Well, what if that computer told you: "tomorrow you'll have a car accident" ? I can pretty much guarantee you it would NOT happen anymore, just because you knew about. Almost anything that computer predicts could be rendered invalid just by knowing it. The computer wouldnt be able to predict a damn thing, and tell it to you, which contradicts your idea that everything would be predictable with sufficient knowledge. the thing would crash with a BSOD :) So even if the future might seem determined, it is clearly not predictable.

Also, when I read BigMac's post, I had to smile, because when I first learned about quantum physics, I realized that was the more obvious reason nothing is determined. Just like my computer example, just the sheer fact of observing something changes its reality, and suddenly, there is whole lot of things you can no longer predict with mathematical accuracy. You can only give odds.

Apply this line of thought to live; you observe (experience) something, and the simple fact of experiencing it renders any previous predictions invalid, they can only give you a probability. This explanation may not be scientifically correct, but its easy to understand, and the idea behind I think does hold water, and pretty much reflects what you "feel" when you live.

If we really had no choice in life, I do not think I'd want to live actually. Play a predetermined role in the movie of the universe ? Thanks, but no thanks :-)

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Thing is, its not true :) First time I started doubting was when I figured this: imagine you have this infinately fast computer, that contains *all* knowledge in the universe. This computer should be able to "calculate" the future according to you, right ? Well, what if that computer told you: "tomorrow you'll have a car accident" ? I can pretty much guarantee you it would NOT happen anymore, just because you knew about. Almost anything that computer predicts could be rendered invalid just by knowing it. The computer wouldnt be able to predict a damn thing, and tell it to you, which contradicts your idea that everything would be predictable with sufficient knowledge. the thing would crash with a BSOD :) So even if the future might seem determined, it is clearly not predictable.


Ahh but I never said the all knowing person would be existing in our world, he's merely an observer!
Causality is everywhere, anytimes, no matter how many layers you coat your story. Hence, if the computer told you this, and you now reacted, you still are victim of causality. You did not choose anything, you still reacted. I too used to think we'd only need a future teller tell us something and us going against it to prove predictability wrong but when you apply causality to it, the future tellers have nothing really true, because in the end, they also play cause and effect like every single molecule out there. Thus, if you think you stopped the future right there from what the comp told you, you're wrong. The chain link goes on, the after effects can still be predicted, calculated, cause and effect. Thus the observer, can view the computer's theory and you, and can even calculate what you will do after that computer's prediction, knowing your next move. So your evasion, is still a layer below causality, which can't be avoided.

Hence why I say it is a future that is determined logically by cause and effect, yet at the same time we live for the unpredictable.

As for choices, I've said enough. Present me with your life choices and the backgrounds for them, and I'll debate you why they're an illusion you think you made. You never chose, you decided upon what was directly logical to YOUR bias. (I defined bias previously, a combination of many factors)

However I do am interested in QM and what they do for real, as well as a confirmation that randomness exists. Mind you I also don't beleive completely that CPUs can generate random numbers as we instruct them to. I believe there is a molecular reaction depending on the charges, the environment it is in, that will cause an electron somewhere to end up being decoded with others, as a "random number".

Oh and the best example of non-randomness is lottery. That's the biggest load of a joke. If you think the results are random, then ROFL.
They're balls, spinned in a closed system. They hit each other and react according to physics, (a world without this stability would be in chaos, no gravity, no velocity, no reflexion laws, etc.) and the moment the person opens the trap and the ball falls, well, it's the number that comes out. But I can argue with you that it was not random because of the moment that person openeed the trap, but actually because a set of factors made the person at X moment open the trap, hence combined with the physics rolling the balls, will end up having a certain ball go out.

Ah yes, I am quite sure of this, there is no randomness with lottery. We, from our POV, will interpret it that way because it IS from our POV, but not in reality.

Now if randomness exists in some molecules, then I'd like to see that set right here for me to read on. My shrink tells me Einstein discovered randomness.

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>As for choices, I've said enough. Present me with your life
>choices and the backgrounds for them, and I'll debate you
>why they're an illusion you think you made.

Yeah of course you can never prove you really had a choice that way, cause you can only chose 1 option, and you can never prove you could have chosen the other..

anyway on QM have a look here:
<A HREF="http://www.7stones.com/Homepage/Publisher/QM.html" target="_new">http://www.7stones.com/Homepage/Publisher/QM.html</A>
(hoover over the bullet)
It may answer your questions.

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Yeah of course you can never prove you really had a choice that way, cause you can only chose 1 option, and you can never prove you could have chosen the other..



Well that is basically my point. I can't say I can prove you couldn't have chosen otherwise (we can't change the past), but I can assure you the choices you make are based on the logic inside your head which clings as "Logical" and thus you take it. We're not discussing right choices either. We're discussing any decision which may hurt you or not. It's about what inside you ticks as the right choice. Hence why it can't be a choice because there never was one, you were MADE to take that one!

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Check out that link P4man posted because it contains some pretty accessible wording on QM.


Eden

I think I understand your deterministic view pretty well. You think you can break all events down into bits that make sense in causality. The essence of Quantum physics is that you cannot do that, when coming down to a particle level, you cannot measure all of it's properties, thereby eliminating any uncertainties. It is called the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle.

Check out these links:
<A HREF="http://www.aip.org/history/heisenberg/p08.htm" target="_new">http://www.aip.org/history/heisenberg/p08.htm</A>
<A HREF="http://www.aip.org/history/heisenberg/p08c.htm" target="_new">http://www.aip.org/history/heisenberg/p08c.htm</A>

From that last page the following quote (because it contains in essence the argument that refutes your deterministic model:

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Heisenberg took this one step further: he challenged the notion of simple causality in nature, that every determinate cause in nature is followed by the resulting effect. Translated into "classical physics," this had meant that the future motion of a particle could be exactly predicted, or "determined," from a knowledge of its present position and momentum and all of the forces acting upon it. The uncertainty principle denies this, Heisenberg declared, because one cannot know the precise position and momentum of a particle at a given instant, so its future cannot be determined. One cannot calculate the precise future motion of a particle, but only a range of possibilities for the future motion of the particle. (However, the probabilities of each motion, and the distribution of many particles following these motions, could be calculated exactly from Schrödinger's wave equation.)


Of course we can still debate how all of this affects "human choice", on the scale of everyday life (and not on the particle level).

It is really hard for people in general to get a firm graps on probabilities and what that means in every day life situations. We all "know" that driving a car is much more dangerous than flying in an airplane. However for many(some?) people it does not "feel" that way (myself included).

As i said before (because of what i quoted above) I think choices are there but we cannot deny our human (evolutionary) heritage, and thus our freedom of choice is limited. However I truly believe we have choices, and as ironmike says, one of the most difficult things to do in life to rise above yourself and not go for the obvious way.

And to be clear to all of you out there (as I do not have to state this to Eden, he knows), I do not think a person has a choice of being a homophile or not. How one expresses his/her sexuality is another matter although I do not believe a healthy life is possible for most people by repressing one's sexual expression. So when expressing it, the most important aspect is to determine what the impact is of your expression on that other person you want to express it with, and it is <b>my choice</b> to let the (physical and mental) health of my (potential) partner prevail over my own, at <b>all</b> times. In my view, a healthy sex life requires you love your partner. I know not everyone agrees with me on that, and to each his/her own, but I believe a lot of suffering can be avoided in this way.




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I respect your right to an opinion, just wondered what you have to say about <A HREF="http://www.godhatesshrimp.com/" target="_new">this</A> particular biblical passage?

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