When Windows does not have drivers built in for a video card it will use the Microsoft video controller drivers. But those drivers will set the resolution and refresh rate to "safe settings" witch is why you cant change them. What is the make and model of your graphics card?
well its a pretty old...I think its a ati x1900 pro...I have looked for the drivers and I think the card is too old to have drivers anymore...but I am getting a new video card (gtx 550 ti 1 GB) do think that this will fix it?
also win 8 is only seeing 256 mb of my 3 GB card is that a driver problem too?